Why would my boyfriend do this? 10 points best answer

Question

I was on my boyfriends bebo and noticed he was messaging another girl and made plans to go to the cinema with her and he also said he wasnt going to try anything on with her unless she wanted him to and that they could have some fun.

I asked him what he was up to and he said he was going to have a shower and then go to bed so his phone would be off.

So i told him that id seen his messages and asked him why he was lying and he just turned his fone off and went to the cinema.

When he got back he texted me and said he was sorry about lying to me and that he wanted to tell me but didnt know how i would react and that nothing happened with them.

What is going on with him and why would he lie if nothing is going on between them??

Please help

Also i am 18 and he is 19 xx

Answer 1

Aww poor dear bc he is an assholle dear thats why . If this guy wants to mess around with lil s****s when he has a gf for this long then its time to move on . You deserve better then this c**p .

Listen to this song Taylor swift should have said no

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6eNEZxxcG...

I think the lyrics will help you !

Hugs stay strong and dump this loser ! A relationship takes two ppl commited to each other he obviously doesn't give a d**n so its time to move on .

Izzie

Answer 2

He would do this to you because he is a jerk.  Break up with him and run the other way as fast as you can.

Answer 3

It sounds like all he qants is s*x. He knows what he is doing. Is he your first. You need to find someone that respects you as a lady and not treat you like a hoe.

Answer 4

I think in Girly terms:  HE IS A SLAG!!!!!!!!!!

Answer 5

although it may hurt...dump him. He is looking to dump you and is testing the waters to see if someone likes him before he dumps you. He is using you as a back up plan until he can find someone else. Don't let this guy do that to you.

You find someone and dump his butt. He will be the one crying and not you.

If he does manage to dump you before you find someone act like you don't care...no matter how much it hurts...he will then think about you all the time and ruin his new relationship.

Answer 6

okay so to me it sounds like he is trying to see another girl behind your back, and as soon as you found out he told you that he lied so you woudnt think that anything happened ! then he said that he didnt do anything but one thing he didnt tell you is thaat he would stop talking to her beacuse reading what you wrote it tells me that he feels sorry that he lied but it he isnt telling you that he stopped seeing her, so what i would do is make sure you spend enough time together make suure he doesnt seem tired or enoyed by hanging out with you

and make sure you get him to tell you the truth when he talks and a key thing about boys is if they cant look in your eyes when they tell you something inportant, they might be lieing when they say it, so make sure he looks you in the eyes and if he keeps this up like telling you stuff he has never told you like hes going to take a shower but he doesnt text or call in like 2 hours or sooomething might give you hints that hes doing something expecilly if he tellss you ill call in 10 and then if he doesnt call in 10 and you try to call him but he doesnt pick up! so if this behaviour keeps acting like this try to sit him down and tell him the truth, tell him that you dont think your relation ship is strong enough and your worried, and if he breaks up with you cause you wanna talk to him about something important, then it means hes not good enough and he doesnt wanna serious relationship, beacuse he doesnt wanna talk about thinks that are important and might save your relationship

hope i helped and sorry for making it so long  

Answer 7

well i would not trust him at all... even if nothing did happen that doesnt mean that he didnt want somthing to happen... depending on how strong the relationship is i would start to think about another person. or u can always get him back and show him how it feels... but thats only if u think he wont go ballistic and he will understand wht u r trying to show...

good luck :)

Answer 8

sounds like hes cheating on you even though he said he didn't do anything but thats a little to much to be saying stuff like that yea its flirting but eh...break up with him! dont let him treat you like that, dump him before he does that to you! thats what he gets.

Answer 9

What he says and what he does are two different things.  Did you feel loved while he was at the cinema?  The guy is clueless as to what love is, and he's clearly telling you what you want to hear to keep you locked in as his safety net.

Dump this guy.  Apparently, he's only remorseful because he didn't get lucky at the cinema.  If he had any respect for you (1) he wouldn't have made that date in the first place and (2) he would have come clean with you when you questioned him about it earlier.

Unfortunately, you cannot trust this guy, and it won't be worth the emotional pain and effort to deal with this.  Taking him back will definitely send him the wrong message, and it will be only a matter of time before he tries to cheat on you again.  If he doesn't respect you, at the very least you should respect yourself.

Sorry, but that's real life, and you sound like the kind of girl who deserves better.  Don't make  big issue out of it or throw a fit.  Just a simple, "Thanks, but no thanks" as you gracefully bow out of the picture will suffice.  Believe me, he may beg and plead and try to make you feel badly, but it won't be long until you see some other female on his arm.

Do yourself a favor by cutting your loses and moving on.