Why would people be this cruel to a child

Question

Not too long ago, a girl told me that she used to pick her nose when she was little, which caused her real father to get mad, so he'd slam her against the wall for it. She seems pretty normal now, but she lies a lot. I think this could be a lie. She's very conceited though.

Also, another person told me that when she had to live with these people in a foster home at like the age of 3, 4 or 5 (not quite sure), they'd starve her, and tease her with food. She said something like they'd take a cereal box, ask if she wanted some, she'd say yes, and then they'd tip it over to show it was empty, and then laugh. I remember her saying like they'd just make her sit at the dinner table every night while the rest of them ate. Also, I guess they once made her go naked as the whole family put tooth paste and stuff all over her. This part made me sad when she said that on christmas all the other kids that lived with them got presents, while she had to sit there and got nothing. She turned out shy, with a low self esteem and low self worth, well, from what I can see. She's shy liike me, so I think that's why she felt comfortable telling me all this.

My old best friend was telling me once how her father used to tie her little brother up to a chair and would hit him with a belt, but the mother did nothing about it. He'd also get hit with a wet belt on his bare butt. He turned out to have like ADHD, sort of violent, but he was also considered a 'crack baby'. Whenever he was acting up, his mother would say stuff like, "I'm gonna tell daddy,' and he'd get really frightened, and say, "No..no..don't.please!"

Answer 1

you should read the book "a child called it" by dave pelzer. in fact, all of his books are about the abuse he suffered as a child, and how his life was affected afterwards. it made me sort of understand how a child in that position feels, and why they continue to let the abuse happen. i always told myself that if my parents ever abused me i would simply go to the police and end it. his books really spoke to me and her made me want to help children like him

but as far as why some parents treat their children that way, i believe in his first book he explains that his mother was a depressed drunk who took her anger out by beating him. his mother wasn't always that way, in fact, as a toddler and young child they had a completely normal relationship. his mother never abused his siblings, only him. but eventually the alcohol and pain of a failing marriage drove his mother to hit and abuse him.

i really do suggest you read his books, especially the first. here are the titles in order;

a child called it

the lost boy

the privelage of youth

a man named dave

Answer 2

Because some people are disgusting and demoralizing and I have seen animals take better care of children than some people do.  Just remember just because people can make a baby doesn't have anything to do with how good they raise a child!

Answer 3

there is absolutely no reason for a parent to be cruel to a child like that,as this would make the child have very low self esteem,it can also cause them to have other problems as well.the girl you are talking about might be lying to protect herself,as she is remembering that by being honest only made her get hurt more,she confided in you,as she felt you were a safe person whom she feels she can trust to tell you these things.It is awful how parents treat their child,don't they realize the lasting damage it could cause for the child?sometimes abuse repeats in cycles,where if one or both parents were abused and they still have problems dealing with it or grew up thinking that is how you raise a child,they will abuse their child,as they had no guidence when they were young,yes,very sick reason to want to do it to their kids,as they should realize how it made them feel being on the receiving end.

Answer 4

* People repeat what has been done to them

* People who lack power elsewhere exert it at home

* People who are angry take it out on the weak

* People who do not like the child they were can hate the child before them

* People judge and can judge a child less than worthy

* Drugs and alcohol can turn some irrationally violent

* Some just use a child for pay and resent having the child in the way

I'd like to say that I want to see all these people tied up and have these things done to them, but I think most of them already have when they were kids.  Child abuse is much more prevalent in society than most think and it crosses all socioeconomic boundaries equaly.  I'm sorry about your friends.  If you can encourage them to get counseling, it will help them not accept more in the future and also make their lives richer in the process.