Why would she do this ?????

Question

hi i am asking for any advice on this my friend died three years ago this november and i miss him terribly i try to put flowers on his grave every week but when i do his mum always throws my flowers away to put hers their even though mine arnt dead why would she do this i just think its disrespectful and it up sets me alot xx

Answer 1

i can feel how hert u feel when this happens to u specially when u lost him 3 years back. You r a great friend others must take lesson from you. U keep doing ur duty by doing that act his mother is herting the soul of her own child. U keep ur cool dont over react. One day the mother will understand ur feeling.

Answer 2

does she hold any grudges against you? why don't you try not putting flowers there, instead something more memorable. Perhaps a poem you can write him or if there is a place to put a vase, make a necklace or something she would have no need to throw away. You can also tell the directors at the cemetary and they may be able to assist you in some way. Either way she shouldn;t be doing this and i guess the only way to find out is to talk to her. He knows you care whether you can see him or not and not even flowers can take away your memories. She can't take what is lost so if taking your flowers makes her happy let her cause she's not being the bigger person. Just by you going there and placing them at his grave still shows you wont ever forget him. Hey and maybe she's not throwing them away...she just might be taking them home cause she likes yous better!!! Good luck hun!

Answer 3

Really, it is hurtful. Ask her directly.

Answer 4

tell her .. that you have your rights.. :D

go for it . yea !

Answer 5

Talk to her about it.  Say, "You know I've noticed that whenever I put flowers on (name's) grave, they get thrown out.  I miss him terribly and can't understand who would be so cruel to do that?"  Act like you don't know it's her and make it clear that you are offended and miss him too.  She's acting like she's the only one who cares or is jealous that other people care.  She may be grieving but she should still act like an adult

Answer 6

Be honest and ask her why she lifts your flowers.  Chin up things get better.