Why would someone get married and refuse to make a comittment?

Question

What is up with a woman that marries and then doesn't want to share anything. Possessions, money, friends etc;. Keeps everything secret? Doesn't make sense. Why would she be like this?

Answer 1

Maybe shes scared  of sharing everything?   she may feel that her frineds possessions etc make up part of who she is and she dont want to loose it or dosent want it taken from her?  If shes keeping everything a secret she may just be a secretive person and dont always like having everyone knowing whats happening in her life and such. ( im secretive this way at times. )  she wants to have her own space and be able to know she can keep things to herself and not have everyone in on the know.  Or she may try to be hiding  something.. talk to her about this and try and get an answer of her reasons why she is acting this way.   The woman may also have some kind of trust issues where she was betrayed in the past so  by  keeping to herself she could feel like no one can hurt her this way.

Answer 2

Maybe because she is scared. Maybe she doesn't really know she is not sharing everything because she never learned the feeling of being truly together with one partner (What's her family like?) Some people live more in their head then others and that is just the normal state for them. Did you talked to her about that? Was she any different before she got married?

Because if she was different, it might be the anxiety that her life as she knew it is over now and she has to be a neat stay-at-home mom now and all what was fun is over now. This fear might not have anything to do with you, this might have been planted there by the way she was raised.

And again - all those answers can only be given by her. Good luck with that!

Answer 3

Im going to be blunt

Either:

1. Shes an Idiot

2. Shes having internal problems

   (maybe due to family problems, did a close person recently pass away, internal conflicts on whether she made the right choice, etc.)

3. Maybe she found out something about the other person that violated her trust.

Answer 4

idk but my husband acts the same way...whats the deal with that?! why did they bother to get married in the first place?! if u figure it out let me know <3