Why would someone lie even though they're caught?

Question

I am still processing everything going on in my life and I still can't understand this one issue- my husband is having an affair and told me he stopped seeing her but still is. I basically walked in on he and his girlfriend having dinner with my 2 yr old son on a night of visitation for my husband and my son. He hid his wh*re in the second room of his place while her laptop and purse were out in plain view for me to see. I said "Why can't you admit she is here? Why do you have to lie when her stuff is here?" And he still denies it. They were basically playing house with my son. I think that actually hurt more than if I found him in bed with her. I guess I am so tired of the drama that I would think that he would be tired of lying after all this time (3 months or more). On top of that, if I were her I would feel like c**p for him constantly lying about us being together. So why lie when you're caught?

Answer 1

desperation

Answer 2

A cover up for something else?

Answer 3

Are you two divorced or separated ? Does not matter. If things are this bad, maybe you need to move forward with your life. You can waste a lot of your life wondering he is doing.

I do not know why he would lie unless it is to keep from cutting you any deeper. Or, if you two still see each other for intamate occasions, maybe he wants to keep you on the back burner.

Your best bet is to get out of the kitchen and on with your life.

I have always said, there are to many good men in this world to waste yourself on one.

Good luck

Answer 4

So please tell me your done with that fool!

Answer 5

I am still trying to figure it out.  I caught my ex in a lie and then she covered it with another lie.  And I have to catch her in that lie which she will cover with another lie.  It is frustrating and not worth our time.  Just think how Karma will catch up with them some day.  I don't understand why two honest people can't meet and stay together, maybe that is the successful marriages in this country.  

Answer 6

Fear... he kept lying about the one issue, so the all the other lies and promises he's made to you and the other woman wouldn't come out with all of you in the same space. Just the kind of guy you can't help but hope winds up with neither woman...

Answer 7

people lie even when they know they will be caught because the reward of doing what they did that they lied about is greater than the affects of being caught......

Answer 8

You got evidence and you know the truth how is he is and why even bother to confront him any longer.

He's a liar and cheater and it's not ok for what he is doing to you.

This will make you very sick and you may end up in the hospital and is that's what you want?

You need to be strong for your child.