Why would someone not say thank you?

Question

i've noticed that a friend of mine never says thank you. i'm the opposite and i thank everyone. why woud someone not say thank you?

Answer 1

Has NO manners!  That is like when you are in line at the store and the cashier does not say hello, thank you, etc. etc.  Plum azz stupid jerks with no manners!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Answer 2

because they weren't raised with manners!!!

Answer 3

It is good that you always say thank you.  So do I.  Some people are just not thoughtful and were not raised to use manners.  My daughter is 10 and I always have to tell her to say thank you.  It has to start when they are young.  When you do something for her and she doesn't say thank you just say, bye the way, you are welcome.  She should get the hint.

Answer 4

I don't think it's a friendship thing. Everybody I know says thank you to everyone. Maybe he/she was never taught to say it to everyone. Make sure it's extra noticeable when you thank someone around them. Maybe they'll pick up the hint.

Answer 5

I personally like to say "thank you" when someone does something polite or nice to me.

Answer 6

It's because they weren't raised to have good manners.  I have found that some people think it's okay to not say please and thank you if they are talking to someone of a lower social standing.  That is not the case.  Please and thank you are common courtesies that should be extended to everyone from the homeless guy at the subway station to the President of the United States.

Answer 7

probably just because they werent raised to be that way. i say please and thank you but i have friends that dont and i think its because their parents just didnt find it important to teach them manners.

Answer 8

it is said that there is no thank you and no sorry between friends....... no formalities....................so may be the closeness your relation with him. or may be he impolite as well.......

Answer 9

It's hard to say without knowing them, but it could be a number of things.

1.)  They may not have been raised to say thank you.  Although this isn't always the case, sometimes people will never say thank you because they were never taught.  As a result, this person may never even think about saying it.  They simply may not even realize.

2.)  In my experience, though, people who usually don't say thank you are selfish.  They don't say thank you because they expect things to be done for them or given to them.  This is especially true with people who are raised with a silver spoon in their mouth.  They just expect to get what they want.

3.)  If someone has social status or was raised with it, then they are probably used to having people fall over themselves to do things for them, in which case they would just come to expect to be waited on.  This could tend to make people "thankless."

4.)  It could be that your friend might have a cynnical (spelling?) view of the world.  In other words, they always think negatively and that something bad will happen.  As a result, when something nice is done for them they may be having thoughts like "Whatever... something bad is going to happen" or "finally, something nice."  They may just be too wrapped up in being negative to be grateful, which would require them to shift their way of thinking.

5.)  Gratitude fosters relationship.  If this person is usually distant toward people, then they won't really tend to show much gratitude because they are always on guard and have walls built up to protect themselves.  In essense, saying thank you is communicating that someone has influenced your life - even if only in a small way - and that you are glad they did.  People who are distant try to limit that contact, and so saying thank you is like a wrench in the gears to them and completely out of habit.

Then again, all of these could be completely wrong and not help you with your friend at all... but, there ya go.