Why would someone want to marry a virgin?

Question

Other than religious beliefs and not having to worry about STIs..?

Answer 1

I think it has something to do with control. Not always of course. If the man is not a virgin but still wants to marry a virgin he is a hypocrite. Some men who are non-virgins who require that they woman they marry is a virgin are control freaks who view women as property.

Answer 2

Apart from religious beliefs, I'm not sure really.

But a lot of people do.

I *think* it has something to do with wanting to be with the person first, starting a life together from that point, perhaps with having a 'blank slate' to begin a sexual life together.

Virginity has been written about a lot over the centuries, including recently from a modern viewpoint by writer Hanne Blank who has looked at ancient, traditional and modern understandings of the term 'virgin' and what it means to people.

She has also made a lot of her work available online (see link below), including some inteerseting writing about male virginity.

Cheers :-)

Answer 3

I'm incredibly possessive in a sexual sense

Answer 4

Well you know someone has 'saved themselves' for you. They could have gone out and had s*x with anyone but they waited for you, and that must mean they love you.

Answer 5

Because of the significance of that one person saving their purity for you. It is an amazing thing to be able to fully give yourself to your husband/wife on your wedding night. I gave myself to my husband as a whole spotless bride and he to me. It was never awkward like other people think it is. When you are really in love, s*x comes naturally to you. Really, it is the best feeling on your wedding night to be able to give yourself without the "what if's". It's unexplainable!

Answer 6

Putting aside those 2 principal things, i would want to marry a virgin because it's prettier to think that i am her man and she's my woman.

Of course, if i was to marry a non-virgin perhaps it wouldn't be such a great problem, but, i myself am staying virgin  until marriage.

Answer 7

It's their culture belief!

Answer 8

Heh...well, you just covered my 2 main answers.

I suppose if someone were the jealous sort who stressed out thinking about exes and worrying about being compared with them, that would be another reason.

Answer 9

If she doesn't have experience, she can't critique your performance because she has no basis of comparison.

Answer 10

My hubby and I believed in waiting for s*x till love, not marriage. Just for the personal reasons of how absolutely romantic it is to know that only you have been that close to that person. That out of the billions of people in the wolrd, on you that one person has ever been that intimate with that person.

Although, if someone would reject someone they love and not be with them just because they aren't a virgin, that's wierd!

Answer 11

So the virgin would think that you were great in bed even though you really sucked.

Answer 12

control. that's all i got.

i want to to test drive the car before i buy it, ya know...

Answer 13

1. Minimizes the chances of STDs.

2. I don't want a woman who's been around the block, so to speak.  

3. Faith and values/beliefs.

Answer 14

Cultural influence. Female virginity is hugely ingrained in some culturse, so obviously people will follow their cultural norms. Not marrying a virgin is rebelling against the person's culture. It's like how an American devalues independence and freedom, because independence is a part of American culture and he/she would be looked at as weird.

Answer 15

If the person is disciplined enough before marriage to wait until marriage, then chances are the person will be disciplined enough during the marriage to not go outside of the marriage.

Edit:

Call me old-fashioned, but I don't want to share my wife with anyone.  I want to be her one and only; and I want her to be my one and only.

Answer 16

Some guys blow themselves up to get 72 of them.

Answer 17

A long time ago it was called true love.  Today that's no longer the case (marrying a virgin.)  I'd bet the majority of men* don't want to marry a virgin.

Answer 18

maybe cause they're in LOVE?

i dont think whether a person has had s*x or not has anything to do with a relationship.

Answer 19

They really like bad s*x =D

Answer 20

I just like the fact that I would go where no man has gone before

Answer 21

Some people see virginity as a reflection of a woman's values. In many cultures, if a woman saves herself for marriage, it symbolises purity, commitment and self-respect.... often, this idea goes along with religious beliefs.

Losing your virginity is also seen as a special experience, and some men may simply want to be the ones to share that experience with their wife.

If people want to wait until marriage that's fine, but I do think some cultures place far too much emphasis on it, and women are often placed under a lot of pressure. It should be personal choice, really. :)

Answer 22

i used to think i wanted to only be with a virgin. but not anymore. i realize now that i dont want a cold fish who just lays there and doesnt have any idea how to do anything.

and also, i would wonder if she is always thinking about what it would be like to be with another guy.

Answer 23

Other than religious beliefs and avoidance of STDs? Possessiveness.

Why is everyone against my answer? Is it not possessiveness to want to be the first and only to have that part of a person?

Answer 24

Just to have a healthy family??

Answer 25

I think it is for the sentimental value. You never forget the first time- so if the first time is with a spouse it makes that relationship all the more emotional. It creates a deeper understanding and connection between the two partners, and also a sense of respect because it proves that the person is able to resist temptations (major trust factor.) Plus, the partners would know that they are not being compared with anyone else while performing... so there won't be a sense of uneasiness.

Answer 26

Besides religious beliefs and STIs?  You can't minimize those two HUGE factors in selecting the person you're going to spend the rest of your life with.

Besides that, I've always liked the analogy that s*x is like a piece of tape.  The first time you place a piece of tape on a surface, it sticks strong.  However, if you rip it off and stick it on something else, its going to have a weaker hold.  Each time you do this, it gets weaker and weaker.  

It's like s*x, if you share it with only one person, it's a very special bond that only you two share.  However, the more partners you have, the less it means.

EDIT:  Also, Bobby has a great point.

Answer 27

Ego plain and simple.  Wanting to feel that you are the first to travel unparted waters and virgin territory. Women never make this demand that a guy be totally inexperienced.  I do not understand the merit of this double standard and perhaps Trollshark has the most accurate answer. This tradition was started by Emirs, prophets and such and perhaps it was their intention to make sure that women had no other man to compare them to in bed.

Answer 28

Maybe the idea of being someone's first is a turn-on.