Why would they do this...it hurt soooo badly?

Question

I'm an episcopalian & the dean (head priest) came to my church when I was a sophomore in high school. He's married with kids. I used to think he was nice; he would call me dear heart sometimes. When I got a little older he stopped calling me that...why? His wife also used to be nice to me...she donated money so I could do this leardership thing. I told her thank you, and she I deserved it & gave me a hug. When I had to come back home from college b/c of Katrina, she & her husband called me. He talked to my uncle and when he asked he said he didn't want to talk to me. She talked to my aunt & left her # and told her to tell me to call her. I did 3 times, but she never returned my messages. One day I said hello to her after the service, she said hi & turned her back to me. I tried to talk to him after the service one day. He stopped me, said he had to do something, and went to talk to other people. When she led a committee & needed info from me she talked to my uncle & not me even though I was @ church.

Answer 1

May be they don't feel you appreciated the money  and may be you seem to be too needy  and they see you as one with your hand out  expecting all the time.

Answer 2

maybe they heard rumors about you.

Answer 3

I can understand your concerns,but years ago,I had a friend that turned her back on me one day,& refused to speak to me..I wondered why for awhile,but obviously she didn't care enough to discuss the issue with me,so I tried to talk with her about it,& got nowhere,& let it go.Sometimes people get something in their heads,& there's no figuring it out if they won't share with you.

Answer 4

Try writing a letter, and ask what happen to the friendship and why you all don't talk anymore, ask them was it something you done? or said?

If they don't reply move on. It seems as if they did, but don't worry because when they need you they will be back. GOOD LUCK !!

Answer 5

We don't always understand why people do what they do. My advice for you would be to stay positive. Let them go their own way. When they are ready to close the gap between you, you'll be ready.

Answer 6

I know it has nothing to do with you being episcopalian.

It's because you are older now and they did help you with your Collage

So they both care about you.

But it wouldn't be right for the head of the Church to be seen chatting with a single man/women ..You must read your bible more and fine the chapter

on married men of the Church obtaining from all appearance of slander

and with a wife.

They talk with your guardians because they are your care givers.You can talk with all the single lady's or man  you like and them you.

Don't worry they love you.But don't want any upsets in the Church over a young girl/man.You can understand this and love them back for helping you hon!  

Answer 7

eh?

Answer 8

You need to learn how to stop asking the questions you will never have the answers to.