Wierd question though...?

Question

Why do people like to be abused? I just do not get it, It makes absolutly no sense to me.

Answer 1

Id say its generally lack of self esteem.  

Answer 2

i used to get into abusive relationships - both physical and emotional.  I tried for years and years to understand why. I have fine self-esteem, I am intelligent, I have good friends that give me healthy attention and support.  Why???  Finally I just accepted the fact that people are weird and that includes me.  I attract and am attracted to abusive people.  Weird but true.  Now, I realize that although I may have some bizarre compulsion to be in an abusive relationship I do not need to act on that impulse.  I think it is similar to the way some otherwise perfectly sane people are atrracted to destructive drugs.  Why is a question that may never be answered and doesn't really matter. What matters is that I accept myself as I am (weirdly attracted to abusers) and choose to act on my good impulses not on my bad ones.  I now have a happy drama-free life.

Answer 3

it all depends on the individual.  for instance a controlling person may want a man to show dominance and to control her

some women just are stupid to put up with abuse

Answer 4

It's a disorder called sadism. Or masochism. Look it up

Answer 5

Well, some people get off (sexually) by being abused, others who were neglected will sometimes take abuse over no attention at all.

Answer 6

i wish i knew my daughter is in an abusive relationship and my wife and i and my other 2 daughters along with the rest of the family and her Friends have told her and tried to help but she wont listen and keeps going back to him as her dad i don't know what to do but if it happens again which I'm sure it will I'm afraid ill blow his head off the worst part is he is a piece of s**t don't work she has to and they have 2 kids i already took my granddaughter from from her first marriage and she don't care hes more important sorry i wrote so much i just don't know what to do

Answer 7

i sure dont...but it doesnt mean they like to be abused they are juat very easy to manipulate

and people who do like it they have a problem

Answer 8

people dont

Answer 9

Abused can be described on levels.

People who let others walk all over them, have a lack of self esteem.

People who like to be abuse due to sexual pleasure.

("'\(o.o)/"')

Answer 10

I don't think people like to be abused... i  dont really understand why people like to abuse others but i dont think people like to BE abused/

Answer 11

they dont...wait are you saying from your point of view, you, or just as everyone

Answer 12

some people just like any kind of attention.  

Answer 13

because some people are so starved for attention that even abuse is gratification for them. That or they've been abused their whole lives and do not know what else to do but seek more abuse.

Answer 14

Well... attention maybe??

I'd beat the c**p out of them if people try to abuse me

Answer 15

They don't like it per-say. It is more like they are conditioned into believing it is a form of love. When you love someone enough, when you have delt with it for so long, and especially when you have grown up being abused, it is just normal to you. They just don't know anything else. Fear, love, abandonment, lonliness, all these play a role. It is unfortunate that sometimes our brain isn't as easy to "switch" as we would like.

Answer 16

In what way though? There are a lot of ways to be abused. If its only emotional, It's called masochism. Sometimes its the only way they can be sure that their partner really loves them. Weird as it may sound some people get a sexual thrill out of this.