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Wife has good guy friends., Is it a problem for marriage..?

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she will never cheat on her hubby...

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LOL great question! I don't get this at all! I had good guy friends that I would never mess around with, that hung out with my and my hub before we got married. Then after we got married, it became a big deal that I had the same friends! WTF?!
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Your question is answered in this dialog from the movie, "When Harry Met Sally":

Harry Burns: You realize of course that we could never be friends.

Sally Albright: Why not?

Harry Burns: What I'm saying is - and this is not a come-on in any way, shape or form - is that men and women can't be friends because the s*x part always gets in the way.

Sally Albright: That's not true. I have a number of men friends and there is no s*x involved.

Harry Burns: No you don't.

Sally Albright: Yes I do.

Harry Burns: No you don't.

Sally Albright: Yes I do.

Harry Burns: You only think you do.

Sally Albright: You say I'm having s*x with these men without my knowledge?

Harry Burns: No, what I'm saying is they all WANT to have s*x with you.

Sally Albright: They do not.

Harry Burns: Do too.

Sally Albright: They do not.

Harry Burns: Do too.

Sally Albright: How do you know?

Harry Burns: Because no man can be friends with a woman that he finds attractive. He always wants to have s*x with her.

Sally Albright: So, you're saying that a man can be friends with a woman he finds unattractive?

Harry Burns: No. You pretty much want to nail 'em too.

Sally Albright: What if THEY don't want to have s*x with YOU?

Harry Burns: Doesn't matter because the s*x thing is already out there so the friendship is ultimately doomed and that is the end of the story.

Sally Albright: Well, I guess we're not going to be friends then.

Harry Burns: I guess not.
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Put yourself in his shoes. It's fine to have guy friends but only go out with them with your man, not alone.
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I have one and my husband is fine with it.  He knows and understands the nature of our relationship and knows that my love for him

(my husband) means so much to me.  I know that a lot of people criticize this, but I have been friends with this guy since we were 10 and we have never had anything intimate going on.
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i don't think so.

but then it depends on the guy and his outlook towards life.
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Depends mainly on the husband. If he is the jealous type it can be a disaster.
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where does she draw the line? do they go out? do u go with them? i personally dont like it tho, thats just me.
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This could be a problem if he's insecure,and some guys are.
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It could be.  You need to ask your hubby how he feels about it.

If he is secure in the relationship then he should be fine with it as long as you tell him when and where you will see these men friends.

Your hubby is supposed to be your male bff and may be offended that another man has that title.

Just include him with the events that you have with your male friends.

How would you feel if he has female friends?  Basically the same thing.

I hope it all works out

Good luck
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It could be if her husband doesn't like it.
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yes if u slept with any of them b4 u got married
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Sure, as long as husband can have good female friends and never cheat.
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it can cause problems. It also depends on how the husband feels about it. If she ever starts having sexual feelings toward another guy she needs to back off.
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you said good guy friends, so there is no problem. actually they can be your saver sometimes.
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Well first of all it will not be a problem unless you allow it to become one,  eventhough these are your good guy friends they should know there place and their boundries.

Never have them over in you and yur husbands home without him being there this is just simply you and your friends to respect your marriage, yourself, as well as your husband.

If they have a problem with this to h**l with them, then they are not your friends after all.

You should never put anyone especially a man above your marriage and husband.

Simply tell them that although you love there friedship and do not want to loose it that you and them are going to have to respect the fact that you in fact are a married woman.

You too have limits, it is okay to have guy friends but that is all they are and you need not to influence, act or treat them any in  any way other than that.

NO FLIRTING< SECRETLY or otherwise.

Come on now would you want him to do this with his girl  friends, does anyone have any morals these days, or common sense?!!!!!!!!!!?
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You are just asking for trouble
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There is absolutely nothing wrong with this.The time to worry is never if you trust your significant other.People should be able have friends of both sexes.If you start feeling or showing jealousy, then you are insecure about yourself.

Personally speaking, I have had over 1,000 friends over IM and they were 95% feemales and 5 % males.Wife never showed jealousy in it and it enriches our marriage.

When we meet that friend,we joke about the friendship relation
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