Wife mother slave is this what we deserve from our family?

Question

Ive been married nealy 20 years I I no I'm a mug but I was brought up if you made your bed you lie in it and that's what I'm doing but that's not Whit I'm asking does any one else in the same way as me let me no asap

Answer 1

Can't talk about your husband but I am sure your kids love you to bits for everything you have done for them, even if they do not show it enough.

Answer 2

I love having that role but its not slavery, you have to shw them whos boss at the same time!!

Answer 3

If your not happy leave. But after being a long time one my own It would be nice to have someone to care about.

Answer 4

I complain about being a slave all the time.. then i think bout when i was a kid, i thought my mum was wonderwomen and didnt need to eat or sleep or have alone time haha... its just normal i guess!!!

as long as it doesnt get out of hand i think this is how its gonna be, and deep down somewhere i know i love it, im needed by my family and its a nice feeling!!

have some time for you.. join a evening class in college!!

Answer 5

You are treated the way you allow your family to treat you. If I were you, I would add a big ole fluffy feather bed soft as can be and some 1000 thread count cotton sheets, lots of big soft fluffy pillows to that bed you think you have to lie in because it's going to be a long bumpy night after night for the rest of your life.

Answer 6

For all those who feel like a slave, talk to your husband about it!  My husband shares the cooking and cleaning, even after a day at work.  I work just as hard as him, as I have a home business, but I also juggle the kids, so he doesn't expect to be able to sit down at the end of the day and be waited on.  When he gets home, dinner is already prepared, but he helps cook it, and we use it as part of our time together to catch up.  When we do housework (mostly on weekends), we also work together and use it as positive relationship time.

And the kids have chores too - as part of this family, we make them contribute.  They hang out and bring in washing, they load and unload the dishwasher, they have to tidy up rooms, they help sweep floors.  Even our 3 year old helps out in small ways to teach her that it's normal around here for everyone to contribute to the household, and that is part of being a family.

Answer 7

your a wife to your hubby, a mother for your kids and you need to help them get started for the day. How is that slavery? if that is slavery - then love is a slavery mechanism.

It all ended for us men when you women got equal rights

Answer 8

no but its whats expected

Answer 9

I can relate to what your saying and I do feel the same way. I have been married for 11 years and I am a loving wife to my husband and a caring mother to my girls, but sometimes I feel like I am being taken advantage of. My husband expects his meals on the table when he gets back and if dinner is not cooked he gets annoyed. Its hard trying to juggle, work, kids and a husband but sometimes people do not see it this way. My girls are a handful and sometimes I get stressed out and feel like packing and leaving - not that I would because i love my kids and husband but there are times when i need me time, sometimes i feel like i am losing my identity I do so much for my family that I never get to pamper myself or do something for me.

It gets frustrating at times as I would love it if my husband would do the same for me, cook for me and help me out with the kids but he comes home expecting everything to do be done so he can sit down and relax, sometimes i feel like a maid!

So sure I do feel the same way as you and yes I was brought up with you make your bed you lie in it. I just wish that sometimes the shoe was on the other foot and the men had to cook, clean and run around with the kids all day to get a feeling of how we feel!