Wife staying out late?

Question

So my wife and her girlfriend decide to go out last night. I was okay with that. Not okay with my wife getting home at 6 in the morning. Not a single phone call. I had to call her girlfriends husband to find out what was going on. To make matters worse about a month ago her and the same girlfriend stay out till 3 on a work night also with NO phone call. Im kinda new at this whole husband thing. How mad should i be

Answer 1

Very mad. That is totally irresponsible selfish self centered behavior and not how a married woman behaves. Tell her that is unacceptable and if she continues, you will get a divorce and she doesn't get one dime in alimony. Don't let her take advantage and disrespect you like this.

Answer 2

Dude. I know you want to be a cool husband, but she's taking advantage of it. Last time I checked there weren't too many public places open at 6am, so where is she. You're trying to be cool and she's playing you for a fool.  

Answer 3

Well my husband does allow me to go out at night but i would never go out til 6am the next morning! and i usually give him up-dates through out the night! My husband and i usually go out together -more fun!!

Answer 4

Very, very mad.  You could have remained single.  She is acting like she is not married.  Maybe you should consider letting her have her complete wish.  

Answer 5

well you should be worried not that mad but try to talk to her and if that doesnt work hire a private detective..because if she is doing something wrong u have the right to know.. hope this helps

Answer 6

Sounds like you need to set some boundaries.

Answer 7

C'mon bro, the purpose of a "girls night out" is so that they can get attention from other men.  Period!  Now not all women cheat when they go out, but that does not change the fact that any woman who is in a night club or bar is there for attention. And please don't fall for the old "i just like to dance" line.  

Answer 8

Ask her to put herself in your shoes. How would she feel if you go out till six in the morning with your friend and don't give her a single phonecall. She should know that you care and worry about her, and wow, that cold bed is also not very nice.

Answer 9

Tell her the party's over.  She's a married woman now.

Good luck.

Answer 10

Dude. You need to lay down the law. If not, she will do it over and over, that is wronggggggg!

Answer 11

sounds like you wife doesn't know she is married.. but regardless whether she is confused about her status or not that is really disrespectful and no married woman has no business being out past 3 at all at then she couldn't give you a phone call seems like she has no respect for you all all she thinks you are a sucker and her girlfriend is edging her on i am guessing that her home girl has no man and you know the saying misery loves company so they are about to be alone together if she keeps this up and if you stand by and allow this to go on well you have no one to blame but yourself .My guy has a rule i better be home by 3 or there will be furniture moving and if i'm late there better be a call and it better be valid because other wise i am up to something and he does the same to me mutal respect is the word

Answer 12

it's unacceptable in my book

total lack of consideration and disregard for the sanctity of your marriage.

Married women do not party all nite long till early morning hours without their partners.

well, some do... and those are usually the ones having affairs and meeting other men at clubs

Answer 13

What the h**l are they doing until 6 in the morning? Partying? Something is very wrong with this picture. Sounds like neither of them understand the responsibilities and maturity expected of a married person.  

Answer 14

That's insane. Are you sure she knows she's married?

Answer 15

Honestly... I wouldn't worry about it. I'm married 4 years with 2 kids and every now and then I have a girls night out where I don't come home until the sun comes up. It's not that she doesn't want to be with you, its just that some times we need time for ourselves. I would however be upset that she didn't call - that is not right. I always call my hubby at least once or twice to let him know things are ok and what time I think I'll be home. I would let her know that its fine if she wants to go out, but at least CALL to be sure shes ok so that you dont worry yourself sick.

And don't listen to Peter N - I have never cheated on my husband, and I dont go out looking for attention from other men. I go out to enjoy time with my friends, have a few drinks, and dance the night away. A girls night out has NOTHING to do with scoping out the men and hoping they're scoping back. Thats just ridiculous.

Answer 16

I would be furious with my husband if he stayed out super late or all night without calling me...in fact I have been.  Yes, he's done that a couple of times.  The worst times were when he used to have a couple of friends who loved to hit the strip clubs and had cheated on their wives.  I didn't trust them and I worried that they would talk him into something while he was drunk.    

Going out to party with friends now and then (once every 6-8 weeks) but I don't think it's a good idea to do it often.  Going out like that puts a person in the line for temptation and drinking lowers inhibitions and impairs judgement.  

What is she doing that she can't make a phone call to let you know what's going on and give you an idea of when she'll be home?  With cell phones there are no excuses for not calling.  

Answer 17

What you should do is this.  when she goes out again, stay up and be watching for her.  When she pulls in the driveway sneak out back with a beer and go to the front.  Drink the beer and stumble in and see how she reacts.  Gander goose!

Answer 18

You should be VERY mad. She obviously has no respect for your marriage. She could have at least called you to let you know what was going on. For all you knew she could have been in a ditch somewhere.