Wife wants son to be daughter.

Question

My wife has always wanted a girl. We tried and tried to have a kid, and when Carlton finally came my wife was disappointed to say the least. Now, over the past few years after Carlton's birth she's bought him nothing but girl clothes, and makes him wear make up. She treats him like a female and everywhere we go she always introduces him as a girl (she calls him "Carla"). He wears nothing but pink, and always wears dresses. I'm pretty sure he THINKS hes a girl himself. My concern is that he's going to pre-school next year, and I don't want him to be teased by the other kids. My wife says she will stop treating him like a girl once he reaches puberty, but I fear it might be too late for him. Plus, he'll probably bloom late anyway since I was a late bloomer, and his mother was as well. I also fear that if I confront my wife it will upset her and I won't get any *****. Please help.

Answer 1

If this is really true, you wife needs some serious help. If this is not true, then you need help for dreaming this up.

**Edit** To Capricorn: Great answer! I should have looked up his previous questions first.

Answer 2

It's like you all need to go to counselling!  Take the girlfriend along too.

Answer 3

whew, I needed a good laugh tonight. thanks

Answer 4

How does your girlfriend feel about all of this?

TROLL.

Answer 5

Oh dear lord! Thanks for the laugh. And I give you an A+ for creativity.

Answer 6

Wow, I'm sorry to hear that you're going through this. For your son's sake, I think you absolutely need to intervene here. Small children tend to be extremely rigid about gender roles. In their minds, if someone looks like a girl and dresses like a girl, they ARE a girl.  You're right, your son will be crucified if he shows up at preschool wearing pink dresses. It will be way too late to change this behavior in puberty- by then, you will already have done untold damage. I would recommend that you sit her down for a discussion about this and tell her how harmful you feel it is to him. Tell her that he is the most important person here and that you both as parents need to consider what is best for him. Ask her how she thinks other children will respond to him dressing and acting like a girl. If she honestly doesn't understand your point of view and won't promise to stop doing that, then you both need to make sure that you go to counseling because she may have mental health issues that will hurt your son. Remind yourself that his welfare is the most important thing here. Good luck!

Answer 7

i think both of you need help! her for making him wear pink and you jus for thinkin about ***** as you say

Answer 8

You're really bored tonight, huh?

Answer 9

Hmmm..if youre married, why is one of your other questions, "someone help me with eating out my girlfriend."

If you need attention, just say so.

Answer 10

Throw the girl things out and start treating your son like a son. She should be happy to be a mommy to a healthy child and love them regardless if they are boy or girl. Your wife needs some serious counselling.

You can NOT let this continue as it will seriously mess your child up in so many ways if it hasn't all ready.  Please get some counselling and help for your wife. Something is not right with her thinking.

Answer 11

You should have a talk with your wife and explain to her that dressing your son up as a girl can cause him to want to be a girl when he figures out he's a boy. You need to buy him boy clothes and let him play with the toys HE likes. Tell her that she should be happy that you all had a happy, healthy baby and to be appreciative. Also tell her that you all could always try for a girl. Hope this helps.

Answer 12

slap that biotch in the face.....

Answer 13

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Perhaps she's upset about you having a girlfriend.

John, get a life.