Wife would you be upset on your husbands?

Question

i was looking on the history for the computer which ONLY my husband and i use. and i found some links to p**n. i got upset and he kept telling me he didn't do, even though its obvious it was.do i have a right to be upset or am i over reacting?

Answer 1

YOU HAVE A RIGHT TO BE UPSET BECAUSE HE'S LOOKING AT p**n AND SECONDLY BECAUSE HE'S LYING ABUT IT.

I HOPE THIS HELPS

Answer 2

i would be upset. especially about the lying. i mean might as well admit to it! but yes, i would be upset because hiding it and lying about it could mean a p**n addiction.

Answer 3

You are absolutely over reacting!! Is it the fact that he was looking at it, or the fact that he was looking without you? I had true issues with this because my hubby and I never talked like we should have. Our bad! It's all a matter of you both understanding your preferences, or lack there of, of p**n and it's content. Is it the looking that's got you upset of the fact that he's not sharing with you? You two need to talk. Good luck.

Answer 4

It's really a personal thing between the two of you.  I wouldn't be upset about regular p**n.  Illegal p**n (kids), or truly violent p**n, or g*y p**n would all cause their own types of alarm in me.  Or an obsession with it.  But men are visual, and I guess women should be pleased.  I'd focus more on maybe just letting him know he doesn't have to sneak around.  Although, if he likes the sneaking around part, maybe that's another problem?

Answer 5

Well of course he lied!  He is a man and that is not something that he brags about or wants you knowing anything about it.  Let it go its not worth it.

Answer 6

yea you could b upset for him lying but as far as the p**n...theres nothing wrong with a man looking at it...its perfectly normal..

Answer 7

well i would be upset and mad as well.

if its illegal then deff report him help groups smething.

and if its just chicks like most men look at them obviously your husband is lacking some sexual love from you.

so i would talk to him face to face about your and his sexual needs.

Answer 8

Be upset. Not only because he is looking at p**n but mainly because he is not being honest about something that you and he knows that you have hard evidence of. You are not overreacting. You deserve to be in a relationship where both of you are honest for when the real honesty tests of marriage come.

Answer 9

You have every right to be upset about him lying to you.

Answer 10

Your over reacting . Sometimes you can click on a site and your PC gets loaded with links .  Find out for sure before running the mouth  

Answer 11

There's no reason to be mad, he might have been looking to make you guys s*x life more interesting.  

Answer 12

nah but sometimes it could have been add-ons or pop ups from the computer. give benefit of doubt this time

Answer 13

Of course.  He is just over sexed  or horny.

Answer 14

I'd be upset about the lying- not the p**n. But if you seemed really mad when you asked him he might have panicked and lied.

Answer 15

You are over reacting about the p**n. You are not over reacting about him lying to you. All men look at p**n, no big deal. But he should not lie to you about it.  

Answer 16

Personally, I wouldn't be upset with him about looking at p**n.  It's something that many men do and as long as it's not an obsession I don't think it's a problem.  I would be a little upset that he lied about it, though.  Have you ever said that you have a problem with him looking at it?  If so, he might have denied it because he didn't want to fight about it.  Or, he may have been embarrassed.  If you really disapprove of him viewing p**n, you should let him know and ask that he not do it any more.  If you don't have a problem with it, tell him you're okay with it and maybe he won't be compelled to deny it again.

Answer 17

I would be pissed that he lied but not that he was looking at it. He is just making the situation worse. Most men do lie about it if you don't like it or if they were with someone else that did not like it.  

Answer 18

Maybe he is just embarrased to have been caught. Looking at p**n is no big deal-men (even women) do it all the time.