Will I always be seen as big?

Question

I hate being seen as a big guy....I'm 6'3" and around 240 lbs. Yeah, I know I can lose some weight, but what bothers me is that I'm afraid that due to my height and build, I'll always be viewed as big, and I simply cannot feel attractive that way, especially regarding females. I hate being told I make someone feel small next to me, or that I can protect them...I find that stuff about as old-fashioned as me wanting a female to cook and clean for me.

I'm starting to lose weight and figured losing maybe 80 lbs would change how I looked, but everyone keeps trying to encourage me to lift weights and "take advantage" of my size. However, that only depresses me because I don't want to be seen as big at all.

Answer 1

go ahead and lose the weight and the name calling will stop.  

Answer 2

Go the gym and work out who cares what other people think. I'm 6'3 but I'm a little smaller then you.  

Answer 3

Sup man,

I don't know how old you are, but at 6'3 you should probably weigh about 220-230 so you're not BIG at all, you're tall and if you play any athletics this is an awesome thing (and if you played them you may want to lift and stay at that 240 range) Don't worry about the girls dude you can't change how you were built.  I'm 5'9 (shorter than most of my friends) and through high school and college I was about 170 lbs so being 6'3 stay where you are at.  

Answer 4

DUDE YOUR CRAZY LIFT LIFT LIFT LIFT

GIRLS LIKE BIG DUDES !!!!

Answer 5

you are not a freak nor fat ...

well you eat less ... no fries potatos baked boiled no pizza junckfoods a nono jog in place situps toe crunches  eat more fruits less breads bake your meats  [see if you tone out then the fat will leave ] the hight   you can where shoes whith smaller soules  but as isee there are alot of folk on here that are trying to help so  i saywe all say you are no freak so be happy man

Answer 6

point blank until you love yourself your not ever gonna be happy. so happy with who you are 1st and foremost

Answer 7

You shouldnt feel that way at all. Im 6`2 and 165 lbs. Im not some giant and im 1 inch from you. Sure a little weight loss couldnt hurt anyone, but 80lbs is alot. And maybe the people are saying that because youre so much taller than THEM. There are plenty of people our heights that are fine, so dont overeact. If u want, go on an excercise program but include weight lifting. Everyone of all heights should practice weight lifting. Dont worry, your size is fine and I would know. And youlll find a lady that appreciates your height. Women love tall men over short men, trust me. Were all fine, and so are you. Good luck!

Answer 8

Personally, as a woman who has been and is attracted to guys your height and size, loosing 80lbs would make me think you were a crackhead!! You would be way too skinny for your height.

I was going to encourage you to hit the gym and do weights & cardio, but you don't want to hear it. I was going to tell you that the average size for a linebacker in both college and the NFL, you are the perfect size. You could be a wrestler, whatever...if your athletic.

Plus, your problems is SELF IMAGE, nothing else!!!!!! Loosing 80lbs is not going to change what YOUR EYES see in any mirror on this earth. Its in your mind.