Will I ever find someone?

Question

I'm a g*y guy, aged 16, going to be a high school junior. I just got a job, and I'm alone for a good portion of the workday...and I always think a lot during my time alone. I'm out of the closet to everyone, but there are no g*y guys at my school and none Id date at work, they're waaaaay older.

I know that me coming out at 15 was very early, and that if there are other g*y guys in my school, they're probably not gonna come out until college or later because they're too scared. It's still very lonely, not having anyone and knowing I probably won't have a shot at finding someone for another two years, in college.

I know I should be patient, but I get depressed and worry that I'll never find someone. I see g*y guys, sometimes with their boyfriends, and I get depressed. I want someone so badly...though I know it may be a while. do you think I'll ever find a g*y guy and fall in love with him? How can I feel better in the meantime? I just wish I could find one sooner than later...

Answer 1

Yeah, I remember the feeling, except I was 14. I was still closeted, but that was actually the reason I didn't come out of the closet. I thought since I wouldn't be able to find anyone, people would just feel bad for me if I told them that I was g*y. Later that year though, I started going out with this 17-year-old from my school. You could say we outed each other, we were both closeted when we met. Looking back the age difference was too much, but I think the relationship helped me in a lot of ways learn that finding someone isn't impossible, and that even if they are in the closet that doesn't necessarily mean that they won't date you, you just have to get them to open up about it.

Answer 2

You just gotta ride out this lonely period of time in your life.  Life is a series of peaks and valleys.  You're in a valley right now.  The plane of your life cannot be one huge valley.  You just gotta ride this period out.  A peak in your life can't be far away.  

Answer 3

You will find some one, one you learn to be come straight and attracted to WOMEN.  

Answer 4

I know how you feel. I'm looking for that special boy that makes me feel fuzzy inside. I met that boy, but I don't know if he likes me. (I think he may be g*y cause ALL his friends are girls.)

Answer 5

dude, is that all your worried about? g*y people dont care about being with someone to keep from being alone, they want one guy for awhile until someone younger and better comes along..thats it...Your on a road full of stress and let downs...do something else with your life.

Answer 6

Hey Brian,

Well I can say that I'm in your shoes too. Well, minus the job (still looking). You're right that coming out at 15 is young-- most people aren't out at our age. Yeah, you can feel lonely, that's normal. Learn to enjoy being single. Hang out with friends, work, get a license, car, etc... Life really is beginning to come together, but yet it's still at that awkward stage, where you don't have 100% control of your life.

Patience is rather helpful... but just remember, somewhere in the world, there's someone feeling and thinking the exact same things you are. You're not alone, although you're single, you're never alone. Every g*y guy that's in the closet, still pushing off the inevitable truth is in the same shoes as you. Single, wanting to be with someone, and probably concerned if they'll ever be out.

One day, everything will work itself out. You will begin meeting guys and you'll find the one for you. Most people don't know their "Prince Charming" at the age of 16. Plus, don't forget a large portion of what you're feeling is the incredible rush of hormones, which makes patience much more difficult.

You're not the only sixteen year old who has no g*y dating experience. I'm one of them.

Answer 7

(: Aww. You'll find someone in time. Besides, at such a young age, don't worry about it! You'll definitely meet someone right when you get to college! People are also more maturerererererer!

And if not, I'LL be your lover. Haha. :) I kid.

Answer 8

Omg

I think like this all the time. I'm a sophomore though and there a FEWW g*y guys in our school. One even asked me out because apparently someone spilled the beans to him that I was in the closet.

I turned him down because he is not even close to what I'm looking for. BUT my point is, you're not the only one going through this loneliness and I feel ya bud. :) But don't worry, love will find you one day and you'll appreciate it so much more then others simply because you waited so much longer for it. Everyone has that one person out there. And one day you will cross paths with that person and the chemistry will be on!

In the meantime, pay attention to friends and school and your college goals and when the time is right, things will fall into place. :)

*hugs*

Answer 9

You WILL find someone.  You have a lot of life left to live, you're not going to be stuck where you are with a bunch of closeted guys forever.  And after you've found the one you'll forget how sad this time was.  

Answer 10

You said the words: Be Patient. Anticipate it and believe me, Prince Charming will soon come and sweep you off your feet.

Answer 11

I came out when I was 16, and time flies by in no time.  No worries, I didn't really know any g*y guys at my school until time when by and me and my girl pals picked out all the g*y ones.  My mom found me an LGBT teen center in Salt Lake City that I went to that I could interact with other g*y teens and such,  It was great.  I'm 19 now and it seems funny to hear of people from my high school who came out after school was out, even some that I have ran into since school is out.

No worries. You'll find someone soon.