Will I ever get over my brothers death each day is like torture how do I go on please help?

Question

some years ago my brother joe was erecting an advertising sighn for polo mints in a little town called Manchester , he got to the last letter when the ladder slipped and he fell to his death,my mother had this moving poem carved on his gravestone that went.

Here he lies my son Joe

Who died when he fell through the letter O

When he was alive there was nobody better

But he died as he came through a hole in a letter.

(sob!!) donations only please no flowers.cash only please no cheques,used notes only please no traceable bills.

Answer 1

Yes, you will get over his death.  Everyone grieves differently.  You will get over your brothers death when you let go which is a hard thing to do because you miss them so much.  When you let go and except what has happened the healing process will start.  What will help you let go is picking a day in the near future and in your own way say good bye.  Your brother wants you to rem. him but not for you to suffer when you think about him.  Rem. the good times, live your life and do the things he would have wanted you to do and picture him there with you giving you strength. Once you let go you will be able to be there for others who have is also going through the grieving process and be a help to those later who will go through it.  

Answer 2

Wow! I can't believe people took you seriously.

Get a life, man!

Answer 3

remember this! your brother is at peace now and in  no pain. he is in God's grace and peaceful for all of eternity

Answer 4

I too lost 2 brothers and a little cousin in a car accident. They were hit by a drunk driver. For a long time, I could not find peace and was unable to function. And even three nights ago when I heard bad news, I began to panic. No one can ever replace your brothers, and their souls, spirits, and memories are priceless. Please know this, they are in a better place and probably having the time of their lives. They would not trade a life of freedom for this world. Its okay to grieve, and crying always helps. But just think of all the things that they would be doing in heaven based on their personalities. Would they be having fruit fights? Would they be in a band singing with the angels. Or would they be racing the or angels for mad props because they like attention? Smile. They still love you, and you'll see them one day.  

Answer 5

Think of it this way. He had compleated his mission here on earth.He did what God had intended for him to do so God called him home. He is in a better place now. He has now worries and he has no pain. He is in the hands of God now. He will have eternal peace. Getting over or are saying missing him. Missing him you more than likely never will. I lost my Father in 1969 and to this day I still miss him. I have gotten over how he died. In time you will get over how he died but you will always miss him as long as you live. I hope this will help you some. I am very sorry for your loss. Good Luck and May God alway be with You.

Answer 6

well.. i don't know if this cheers you up, but i can try, right? just think, your brother knows all your wishes and dreams. maybe he'll tell GOD what they are and ask Him to bless you and fulfill all your wishes. your brother's at peace and is safe with GOD. i know this is really hard for you, but whether you like it or not, life goes on. it doesn't wait for any mournful or sad people. it makes man move on, without knowing it. i understand that this isn't the best thing a guy could say to you, but it is the truth and the sooner you'll accept it, the better you will feel. i won't be able to take up as your brother's replacement, obviously, but if you want, you can always chat with me and i'm sure i can make you laugh... and don't worry, i'm not some pervert or pedophile... lol

Answer 7

I cannot know first hand how you really feel inside. I know from my experience that it does lighten up a bit but he will always be on your mind. It's been 25 years for me and I still think about him. I can still hear his voice when I think about him. I can also remember saying goodbye to him as he lie in his casket. It will get easier to accept but you will always remember him as if it were yesterday.  Just don't let it consume you. He wouldn't like that.

Answer 8

spend a certain amount of time in some charitable activity, in your brothers memeory. what did he like? for eg, if he li8ked kids, you could donate time and money helping kids.  

Answer 9

Well there's no good answer anyone can give you to be honest and I am sorry to hear about your loss.Maybe a suggestion though is to remember all the good times and use his memory to make your life even better.Live your life as if you are making up for the loss of him in the world meaning life a life that would make him proud of you not depressed.I bet thats what he would want is you to be happy.I myself am a christian man and I believe I am going to see my loved ones again so that is a personal comfort to me but I dont know if you understand that peace but if youd like to know email me .Take care and be strong ok.Your feelings just mean you loved him is all and it isn't easy.I cant immagine going through that.wow...  

Answer 10

Everyone is the same after the death of a loved one. As hard as it is to believe now, you will get over it and learn to focus on the memories you shared and smile because you got to have him in your life.

This reading was at my dad's funeral, he died when i was young due to cancer, i found it helped me a lot.

You can shed tears that he is gone

or you can smile because he has lived.

You can close your eyes and pray that he'll come back

or you can open your eyes and see all he's left.

Your heart can be empty because you can't see him

or you can be full of the love you shared.

You can turn your back on tomorrow and live yesterday

or you can be happy for tomorrow because of yesterday.

You can remember him and only that he's gone

or you can cherish his memory and let it live on.

You can cry and close your mind, be empty and turn your back

or you can do what he'd want: smile, open your eyes, love and go on.

Answer 11

that's not funny to joke about someone dying.