Will I suddenly want to have children once I get married?

Question

I am 26 and have never felt the desire to have children. Could this change if I get married?

Answer 1

It might change, but it might not.  I've always wanted kids and still do now that I'm married (just not right now!).  I hope your fiance isn't the one hoping you'll change your mind once you're married, though, as one person wanting children and one person not can break up a marriage.

Answer 2

Whether it changes or not, please make sure you discuss this with your future husband. This would be an awful big surprise if he was not informed in advance. By the way, I'm not sure getting married will change your mind.

Answer 3

you might.  i did.  i never wanted kids, but i got married at 27, and thought i wouldn't want any.  i just don't know what to do with them...my husband loves kids, and has always wanted them.  when i turned 30 this year, all of a sudden, i wanted a baby.  now, I'm dealing with PCOS, and having a hard time conceiving.  you may or may not change your mind.  just make sure you talk to any future husband about your feelings.  that's a horrible thing to divorce over if you haven't talked about it before.

Answer 4

It depends.

Answer 5

Maybe, if you find a guy who wants  to have children.

Answer 6

It depends when your maternal clock is going to send off the alarm.  Every human has the survival instincts, and one of them is producing offspring.  I was married for years before feeling like having a child.  

Answer 7

The chances your mind will change aren't as likely as the way you think about the idea now especially since you are a woman. You say you have never felt the desire. Most women at one time in life desire to be a Mom. I have a friend who never wanted children and she is 33 and still doesn't. I guess her  ex-husband thought she would eventually change her mind because they are now divorced because he really wants kids.

Answer 8

You should marry my husband =) haha...jk..

Honestly, I don't know...but I would think that would be a no...maybe if you found someone you wanted to spend teh rest of ur life with...but if it doesnt change before marriage it wont change afterwards

Answer 9

i have been married twice (still married the second time) and i still dont want kids. i am 42 years old. i have 3 stepkids but never wanted any of my own

Answer 10

It could, but if you don't want kids, don't have them just because other people do, or because someone else expects you to have kids...

It's your life, and you need to do what works for you.  I have a couple of friends who have no kids.. they are both in their late 30's and do not regret it at all... and neither of them seem to be missing anything.

If you plan to get married, your future partner will need to know that you're not interested in raising a family... hugs

Answer 11

no. only of you goals change .

Answer 12

If you haven't felt it at all by 26, it's unlikely you'll change.

Whether to have children is something you settle before marriage,

not something you work out after.

If some-one is expecting, or pressing you to change, back away.

Answer 13

No, it will not change. I was 30 when I got married and am now 41, childless by choice, with a husband who wants the same. We have been happily married for 13 years and are living our life to it's fullest. There is NOTHING wrong with being a "Couple", children are just an option. Don't force yourself to have children if you really don't want them.

Answer 14

its upto you if you have a rich husband and there's not problem to live your life may be if you dont work or so then go ahead, its better to have a family instead of working couple, (as of me)

sit and decide when u get married :))

goodluck!

Answer 15

I think if you have to ask the question you are not firm in your conviction.  Many women do not want children and are very firm about this in their own mind.  Others say they do not want children, but it is only a thought then after they get married a husband says something or a friend has a baby desire begins to take over.