Will My Secret Marriage Stay Secret?

Question

well thanks a bunch Indabel28 (sarcasm)...

The reason we don't lie to his parents is because we lve in town here with them and they will want to attend (big, close family) while mine is detached, 1,000 miles away.

And the reason I am getting married is because I love this man, and I dont want to hear your opinion on how "I'm losing so much of my freedom," or that "this is the best time of your life, enjoy it!" F THAT. I dont want to be a single loose W***RE the rest of my life while I let this man get away from me.

so thanks, youre awesome.

Answer 1

Ugh

I want to tell you that this is going to turn out so badly for you.  That lying to your parents is only going to cause more pain and destruction than just telling them the truth.  Really... just tell them you are marrying this guy.... you are 18 they can't stop you, and hey if they choose to approve... then they could come see you get married in the court house and that way everyone would be happy.  And you'd have a clear conscience.

But to answer your question, you can get married and you don't have to change your name immediately, you can wait as long as you want.  And your social security number doesn't change, just the name on it, and you don't have to change that immediately either.  You can wait to do all of that.

Answer 2

You dont change your SSN, only the name on the card, and you dont even have to change your name if you dont want to.

I dont think they will find out.

Answer 3

If you're asking about the legal matters of the situation then I don't think the question is in the right section. But yes from what I know things will affect all that paper work. I am saying it because my friend wanted to get married soon, but she will have to wait because she doesn't want it to affect her ...all that stuff. Don't take my word for it though, I didn't expect to answer this kind of question in this section. Bye. =.D

Answer 4

your SSN will not change..but you would probably be dropped off their insurance..why not tell them you are getting married in a court house and just tell them you want a big wedding in a few months/year

Answer 5

Your parents insurance will not carry you if you are married, and they have people who work for them who look for those types of things.  So his parents will know you are married and yours won't?  That won't be an easy secret to keep.  Furthermore, a church wedding will require a copy of your marriage license, if you don't have one, they won't marry you, so yes, someone is going to find out and tell your parents.  It would probably be best coming from you. Oh and if our father's insurance company finds out he's committing fraud against them, all insurance companies could refuse to cover your parents.  Not a good idea.

Answer 6

And what happens if they claim you as a dependent (in some cases they can until you turn 21) if they have been on their income tax return and the IRS finds out you are married? They can't claim for the entire year you know...and the IRS will send out a letter to both you & your parents with the tax re-adjustment and the reason for it..OH Cat OUTTA THE BAG!..oh well, what a tangled web we weave when we choose to deceive...audit for both your parents and you..boy, are they gonna love finding out your married that way......

...and you can;t claim anything medical on their insurance after you marry.....that would be insurance fraud if they don't insure emancipated kids (marriage will emancipate you and you will no longer be a dependent therefore they cannot insure you anymore) and if the insurance company finds out both you & your parents are scr@wed..

...but go ahead 'cause it's the easy way.....and only you should be considered.

Answer 7

if you're worried about insurance, then you dont need the marriage thing. but at 18 i;m sure you're smarter than everyone. to answer the question. NO it wont work.  and now its not secret.we all know.

Answer 8

You won't be aloud to use your parent's insurance anymore since you'll be married since you no longer will be a dependent on them.  Also they might be (probably are if on insurance) claiming you as a dependent on their taxes.  They can't really do that if you're married.  If you don't tell them and they file claiming you, you could cause them some problems with the IRS.  I don't think you want someone else letting the cat out of the bag.  I'm sure they'd be really hurt to find out from someone else.  

Answer 9

Yes they will find out bc your name will change and your ssn will change the name on that.  They might even drop you (the insurance) from your medical insurance.

Answer 10

Insurance Scaming  is a felony and you will end up in the pen if you get caught.

People like you help drive the cost of insurance up for the rest of us.

Answer 11

First of all, whenever you run some sort of "secrets" you risk going against the law. Since you are under your parents' insurance you must also legally change it on all other documents, and yes that means your insurance id as well. Of course you can try to hide it by not reporting to your parent's insurance but if something were to happen then you will be denied of claim. If you change it and your parents are the careful type they might notice it since your name and ssn will be different. Why not try to explain to them first? You can still plan your big days later after you are legally married. Hope that helped, good luck!

Answer 12

This will not work.

Answer 13

Why don't you just lie to his parents and tell them that you got married that way you don't have to worry about name changes and such.  Your parents WILL find out if you really do get married.

Answer 14

i think that if you are careful and plan well everything will work it self out good luck

Answer 15

Your Social Security Number (SSN) will not change when you change your name.  You keep the same SSN your entire life.  

They may find out only if it somehow gets reported to their insurance.  If you're getting married, just tell you parents when you move that you've decided to take out your own insurance because you're no longer living with them.  

And last, but most definitely not least, DON'T GET MARRIED.  You are WAYYYYY TOO YOUNG!!  I repeat:  You are setting yourself up for disaster by getting married at this age.  GO TO COLLEGE.  Start your career.  Get settled independently.  You should not be getting married at 18.  That's a very foolish decision.

Answer 16

I have no issue w/ you lying to your parents, whatever.  What I have an issue with is WHY you are getting married!

"The reason we are rushing this is because his parents are both very religious and don't approve of us living together unless married"

WTF??

Why not just lie to his parents and tell them you ARE married?  Or tell them you are not living together??

Regarding the insurance, no, your parents will not find out.  The SSN office does not just report name changes to all insurance companies.  BUT - if something happened and you tried to use the insurance, you would not be covered because you are married and considered an adult.

Answer 17

When you get married in a courthouse. It is public record.

Your SSN. will "never" change.

Your parents insurance is with you "living at home."

Answer 18

You probably won't be able to keep it secret for long. Will his parents know about it since you are living together? And yours won't?

And you should know that it is probably against the regulations of your parents insurance to have you remain on their policy as a married woman.

Your social security number won't change, but you will need to legally change your name on it when you marry.

Also when you get a marriage license, it is a public record, so anyone can find out about it.

Do your parents know that you are living with your boyfriend in Oklahoma? Maybe they would prefer for you to be married.

I think that if you feel like you are old enough to get married, then you need to be old enough to tell your parents the truth yourself, instead of letting them find out accidentally from someone else. Then they can help you plan a nice reception when you go back to Michigan.

I think that your marriage will work out okay. I just hate for you to start it out by keeping such a huge secret from the people in the world who love you the most, and could be the most supportive. (other than your husband)

Answer 19

fully understand.. we got married quickly for same reason.. I have no idea if they will be notified with SSN change.. you can always change that later.. I think.. I applaud you for wanting to get married & not just live with each other and have that secret.. I have know people that got married secretly and then had a "family" ceremony later on.. I think that is kinda cool actually...