Will Silence Speak Louder?

Question

To make the long story short - I was with my ex for 3 years until he dumped for another chick (lied to me about the entire thing for 2 months). And 2 months into their relationship, he gets her PREGNANT (unplanned). He completely blocked me on everything via internet, and I haven't had any contact with him in 8 months...UNTIL YESTERDAY. He sent me a message on facebook saying, "Hey - not sure if you still completely hate my guts and I totally understand if you don't respond to me but I just wanted to see how you were doing. Hope to hear from you soon." Is it safe to assume that he's a bit unhappy at the moment and looking for an outlet? He has a friggin baby on the way, and there he is sending his ex a message. I don't plan on responding AT ALL. He doesn't deserve a response from me. Will saying NOTHING say more?

Answer 1

when we leave someone we once loved it's a hard thing to do...but u should give up on him and move on ...he is feeling guilty about you ..leave him that way and ignore him...

Answer 2

Answer this way. All's well here.No need for further correspondence.

Answer 3

Stop being a baby sitter or heart soothning lotion for such lier-cheap kinda boy. Don't have to resume any relationship with him.

Do you think your are too downmarket to let the cheapster have fun at your expense.?You are not dear.

So,let the cheapster be at the slum and you look forward for someone really worth.

Answer 4

OK...DR. LUV SAYS:

ABSOLUTELY!!! dont respond to ignorance. Men have away with leaving a great thing for something ok...its called the 80/20 rule. it is a real law in relationships. When he left you for this other chick, there was something, either looks, personality, sexual preferences, relations, something that made him want her. Now that he has what he wanted, he realizes that its really not all it seems...he wants back into your life. And the number one thing that a man hates is for you to ignore him. I mean actually pay no attention to him, dont even read the messages, b/c they can easily pollute the mind of a weak willed person. Dont believe the ooo baby baby comments, or the i miss you comments. Remember in your heart and your mind and your soul...HE LEFT YOU!!! you were a faithful woman and HE decided that he wanted to s***w up the sanctity of your relationship. Hard trials are everywhere in this world, and everyone is made different, so whats going to happen the next time he sees something that he thinks he wants...NO!!! dont be a fool about this situation. Ignore him, and go on with your life. If you see him in person, you have 2 options and both are pretty kool to try...1) Ignore him like you never met him before, if he tries to talk to you use this line(so funny) "Im sorry have we met before?...he will look at you like he just lost his cup of milk to go along with his cookies...2) be as nice as possible...speak to him, smile, ask him how his life is going, but keep the conversation short, and get into you car and drive away, still ignore him on facebook, and anyother way he attemps to contact you on. Also remind him of his baby on the way...ask how everything is going, numerous of times. ( #2 takes a very strong willed person, so if you cant handle it, stick with #1)...(I should be getting paid for this S***)

Answer 5

Personally, i think you're overreacting. I understand that you're upset because you were with him for so long and he cheated on you and then left you. Trust me, I've been there. Except it was me who cut off contact with him, not the other way around.

Do you think it's possible that he's asking how you were because he's actually concerned? Maybe he's realized that he's really hurt you and he's sorry. Now, if he said, "Hey, not sure if you still completely hate my guts, I was wondering how you were doing and I wanted to see if you wanted to hang out some time." maybe that could be a sign that he wants to get back together. But all he asked was how you were doing.

If you respond, you will have the chance to tell him how much he hurt you and you can get everything off your chest. If you don't want to bother (which I understand, there may be no point) then don't. Either way, this loser is out of your life, as he should be.

If you think you're going to "give in" and try to get back with him because you miss him, I wouldn't recommend talking to him.

Hope this helps =)

Answer 6

Ignore him.  There is no reason to talk to him.