Will a baby sleep thru e night by herself 1 day? without any "training"? i nurse my baby to sleep everynight?

Question

my baby is 8months, me n hubby do not want any CIO n i dont mind nursing him to sleep as i know it wont last forever. but he wakes up every 2hours i know its either for comfort or he is teething now

Answer 1

We give my 8 month old son a jar of baby food before he goes to bed then I either breastfeed or give a bottle. He has 6 teeth in and getting some more so he hasn't been sleeping good at all.We was getting up anywheres from 3 to 4 times a night. But we recently moved him to his crib and he sleeps alot better. But I will warn you they will cry like crazy at first and you feel bad for doing it but it is for the best. I don't want him sleeping with me when he is 5.  

Answer 2

Hun the baby needs  the tummy full to sleep all night.. make sure the baby is full.. let your baby nurse as long as the baby keeps sucking.

Answer 3

Of course, though it might be later than you might expect -but many parents are shocked to find out how long even "trained" babies need "re-training" because the go back to waking.

Your baby won't be nursing, sleeping with mom, using a bottle, sucking a pacifier, etc when they go to college.

http://kellymom.com/parenting/sleep/comf...

've been told that baby will NEVER learn to go to sleep on his own if we don't teach him...

Never?! It is normal, natural and healthy for your baby to fall asleep nursing. Nursing babies fall asleep so quickly - how can anything so perfectly designed be worrisome? I've read a lot about babies' sleep patterns, and I've talked to many moms about this. Both my reading, my personal experience, and the experiences of other moms has convinced me that falling asleep without nursing is a developmental milestone that your baby will reach when he is ready. The first step often comes when your baby starts to nurse to sleep then stops nursing, rolls away and goes to sleep on his own. Or perhaps he will fall asleep in Daddy's arms when he's walking with him. These incidents may not happen very often at first, but they are the first step and *do* make you realize that it IS possible for baby to fall asleep by himself.

There are many babies who have been nursed to sleep and nursed during the night from birth who eventually learn to fall asleep on their own without the breast. You don't have to teach them to do this. They reach this as a milestone - when they're physically, developmentally, and emotionally ready to. You can try to speed this process along by putting baby to bed before he's asleep, but always nursing him to sleep will *not* keep him from learning this on his own. My daughter started to occasionally fall asleep on her own (or with her Dad) when she was around 11-12 months. Knowing that she *could* go to sleep without me right there really helped, even though she didn't do it too often. As time passes, she's fallen asleep without nursing more and more. We did not "teach" her to do this, or even particularly encourage it. It has simply been a natural developmental progression that came about as *she* was ready for it.

http://www.askdrsears.com/faq/sl15.asp

This is a common concern, and a common argument against co-sleeping. The answer to your question is: "Yes, he will learn to fall asleep by himself." BUT, it will probably be much later than you are anticipating. Many parents have an unrealistic expectation about when their infants should be able to fall asleep by themselves. I hear people say six months, or one year. In reality, it's usually between 2 and 4 years. Our four-year-old still needs to be parented to sleep. This is not a problem for us, he still needs the "snuggle time".

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I like this approach for several reasons:

   1. Children develop a positive attitude about sleep.

   2. They are not forced into anything that they aren't ready for - they get to choose between two nice things.

   3. Everybody stays happy - there are no nighttime struggles, which helps keep lost sleep to a minimum.

I have some friends that really wanted their two-year-old son to sleep through the night. So they cut off the night nursing and "sleep trained" him. They were so proud because now their son would sleep through the night. Recently I was at their house for a meeting and it came time for their son's bedtime. Mom announced, "time for bed", and I will never forget the sudden look of fear on that child's face. To him, bedtime was a scary time.

http://www.naturalchild.org/tine_theveni...

Gesell argues that a child passes through predictable stages of development at predictable times.4  Thus what might seem to become a habit, may be simply a gratification of a need.

Hymes, in his book Child under Six, describes a habit as an action which can easily be broken. "If you run into any major difficulty at all," he writes, "Beware! You are probably not dealing with an old outworn habit. The chances are that you are tampering with a human need."5

If the body indicates a need for food, treating it like a habit and disregarding it will not make the hunger go away. Ignoring the sensation of wanting to lie down and sleep will not cure one forever from having to sleep eight hours a day.

But if one is in the habit of putting his keys in his right pocket, there need be only a worn-out pocket to change the habit from putting the keys in right to the left pocket.

The child who seeks his parents' bed at night is expressing a basic need. And this need must take its own time and pace for satisfaction.

The child who is thus allowed to be with his parents will gradually mature to being satisfied with sleeping elsewhere, usually seeking the companionship of another member of the family. Should this child choose to sleep alone, it might do well to be aware that he has not transferred his seeking security from his parents or sibl

Answer 4

a baby that is waking up every 2 hours to nurse, especially at 8 months when he doesn't need the nourishment, is enjoying himself immensely and will not stop on his own (at least not for the next 4 months or so.)  If you want him to nurse less often you're going to have to train him.  The only way it worked for my son who did the same thing, was to stop co-sleeping, and move his crib out of our room.  That worked.  We did it when he was 9/10 months.

Answer 5

Yes, your baby will someday sleep through the night on his own.

That said, you can hurry that along without crying.  Read The No-Cry Sleep Solution by Elizabeth Pantley.  She talks about this problem, and gives lots of ideas to help.

Pantley herself is a cosleeping, breastfeeding mom, although her book works for anyone.  She is firmly against CIO as well.

BTW, good work nursing your baby to sleep.  Who on earth would call that a negative sleep association?  It's magical--it works, it makes everyone happy, and it's completely healthy.

Do you sleep with your baby?  I would recommend bringing baby into bed with you after the first or second waking.  If you haven't learned how to nurse laying down, it's an excellent skill to have.  You won't even know how often your baby wakes up if you cosleep.  You'll roll over, plug him in, and you won't even wake up.  It's nice.

Answer 6

i learned this with my daughter, that a baby that's learns to fall sleep with a crutch (ie: nursing), that crutch is the only way to get them back to sleep when they wake up in the middle of the night

Answer 7

Every 2 hours ... man o man I feel for you. Thats a rough one. Does the baby have its own room? If so let him cry. I know its hard but you have to let him cry for a couple of hours and keep him on a strick schedule of sleep.

Does he take a pacifier? If so give it! I have 3 and 2 wouldn't take the pacifier but 1 did and he is most calm of all them:).

Does he have colic...if so see a doctor.

But again let him cry, seriously I've done it for mine and it works. When I need a break I put them in their cribs, let them watch sesame street and relax for a sec.  in a seperate room. Don't make him depend on you... he has to learn to accept the fact that you will leave sometimes and it's ok.

Also does he sleep in the bed with you...sometimes they like to smell you and know when you leave. So if you want you could let him sleep with you but I don't recommend it, and you have to be a light sleeper so you can make sure he's ok in the bed. Or you both sleep on the floor... safest place ...but don't rollover on baby!

Answer 8

To help your baby sleep better and longer at night try giving him/her a nice warm bath about and hour and a half before the desired bedtime. Then feed him/her a jar of food followed my a warm milk bottle with a little rice cereal or just go ahead an nurse them. You can also switch it around and feed, bathe then bottle/nurse. I find it easier the first way because the child is usually more claim after the bath. I do it with my 6 month old whenever he has cranky nights and I need him to sleep and before I go to work so he'll sleep good at his grandmother's house. Sometimes I don't even need to feed him a jar of food because he's so tired after the bath that all he wants is a quick nursing ;)

Answer 9

If you know he is teething give him some tylenol or orajel before bed.  Also, try the methods Elizabeth Pantley talks about in her book "The No-Cry Sleep Solution".  They worked for me bu not in a day.  It takes  time to train your child to sleep.  Just like every other skill it takes time for baby to learn.  Good Luck!

Answer 10

my son was exactly the same and yes he did by time he was 5 months and went onto formula and food was introduced.You really should start settling him in his own cot now so he learns to self soothe.BTW,my son is 16,good luck.