Will a new baby make me and my partner stronger?

Question

Me and my partner have been together for a year, our 1st baby is due in 8 weeks. Will this make us stronger? I ask this because so many parents split up these days? I want us to have the most amazing family!

Answer 1

it might , it might not, it depends how much u both love each other ,

the stronger the couple the better the chance

Answer 2

Having a baby is unlikely to make you stronger if that's what you are counting on.  Having children with someone does create a different kind of bond, but it doesn't necessarily make things any easier or happier.  In fact, it makes things more difficult.  A baby is VERY stressful.  If your relationship is already kinda rocky, adding that much stress and responsibility could cause even more problems.  It just depends on the person.

Above everything else, you have to remember to take time to work on your relationship even with the new baby.  Too many times, the relationship gets pushed to the back burner because baby becomes priority number one.  Although the baby is obviously very important, you have to learn to prioritize.  You have to work twice as hard on your relationship because so much care and concern is being directed towards the new baby.

Answer 3

I can't remember where I heard this (a movie, I think) but it sums it up pretty well: "Having a baby is like throwing a grenade into the middle of your marriage"

If you can handle that, you'll be fine. It's great that you have good intentions, all you have to do now is back them up with right action. :)

My advice:

- communication, communication, communication.

- Talk about parenting NOW, there's nothing worse than realising that you and your partner have completely different ideas about parenting after the fact. Agree on your values and principles now and develop strategies for working as one parenting team.

- Make time for your self as a couple on a regular basis. Just so you can touch base and remember why you made this baby in the first place. Even 20 mins in the morning before baby wakes up will do the trick.

- Remember that you must demonstrate good relationships to your child, you and your partner will be his/her first and strongest example of how to relate to other human beings.

- Never be afraid to seek advice.

Good luck!!!

Answer 4

I wouldn't count on it

Answer 5

yes

Answer 6

I think having a child adds a lot more complications to a relationship...

I think having a stable relationship or at least an unselfish attitude is what you need in a relationship to make it through raising a child together--just have a lot of love for eachother

Answer 7

It means you will both have to work a lot harder together. if your partnership is very strong it will make itstronger but if it is weak well---------  

Answer 8

Having a baby is amazing but it's also hard work. You will be irritable at first and you are never alone anymore so you have to try and make "together time" for both of you. If you both raise this baby and be happy then i think it will help you to grow stronger. But other things other then babies make you stronger as a family, other things other then babies push people away also. So good Luck and don't take anything for granted, live life one day at a time!  

Answer 9

Hi well how do you feel you relationship is now you are pregnant, me and my hubby have actually been getting on alot better now, as im not as much of a stress head etc, if you have nothing wrong at the moment then having a bbby could make you closer or even cause confilict as there is alot to do when the baby arrives, but if you feel like I do then I think having a baby wil be the best thing for both of us and bring us even closer I get butterflies just thinking about the 3 of us together, like most people say dont compare yourself to other people thats the wrong thing to do.

Answer 10

At first no. having a baby is stressful and exhausting. You'll probably both be snappy and grumpy and may row over the slightest little thing. BUT once you all settle in to a routine and adjust to your new rolls as 'mummy and daddy' you may find your relationship is alot stronger. Just remember to keep talking to each other and make time for each other.

Answer 11

And you will have 'the most amazing family', ! it takes effort sometimes

but you are already aware of the problems of others so you will put that little extra work in....all the very best to you and your 'amazing family'. good luck !!!!!

Answer 12

a baby can be very stressful on even the best of relationships.  always communicate and always show love towards each other and when one of you is coming to the edge of going crazy from a fussy baby be grown enough to say you go rest now let me try for a while.  work together.

Answer 13

who knows, it could go either way-only time will tell!

Answer 14

Having a baby won't make your relationship stronger, no, not necessarily. Many people fight more when the stress of a baby comes, I hope you guys get along and share responsibilities well.

Answer 15

If you have a strong, solid and happy loving relationship now, then a baby would good for you both.

Answer 16

it will but not at first. as long as you love one another and have the strength to support eachother when things get tough then all should be well. babies can actually put a bit of a strain on your relationship but if you love eachother then there is no reason that the experience shouldn't make you stronger

good luck

Answer 17

It will make you stronger because you'll have something that you've made together and it's a part of both of you. The feeling is unlike anything else and it 100% will make any relationship stronger!  

Answer 18

It all depends on your relationship...don't compare yourselves with other people

Answer 19

having a baby can put a lot of strain on a relationship, and if u stick together and work hard then you's should be fine, but remember there will be hard times, but if things do get tough dont let youself or your baby suffer just because you want an amazing family, single parent families can be amazing too! but no family or relationship is perfect

i hope it all works out for you

Answer 20

having a baby can put a lot of stress on a relationship, especially if it's not strong to begin with.  There are late night awakenings, feeding, changing diapers ..not to mention the financial burden.  Don't count on having the amazing family just because you're having a baby ..it takes work and dedication.

congratulations on the baby ...what a joy !

Answer 21

It can. Don't let what happens to others affect your life. You don't know what actually makes people split. If the 2 of you love each ot6her are committed to each other, everything will be fine. I'm not saying it will be easy but if both of you are willing to make it work...it will.

Answer 22

It will test your love for each other and take your relationship to the limits. I hear a lot of people have a baby to save relationship but they are the one thing that will really test it! If your both strong enough,you'll be just fine x*x

Good luck xx  

Answer 23

it will either make you or break you.. a baby is not a fix to a relationship