Will a slide show be to much?

Question

A asked a question a few days ago about a song for my H2B to dance with my sister in memory of my H2B's younger sister who was also my sister's best friend (she was murdered a few years ago). I still have yet to decide on the perfect songs, so you can put in your advice for that too, but I was thinking about posting a few pictures of my H2B's sister in a simple slide show during this dance ... Do you think it will be to much? I really want to memorialize her in some big way, she was a big part of everyone's life. Any Advice?

Answer 1

I think that that would be a wonderful and beautiful tribute to her and that would be so thoughtful of you to do.  You sound like a really wonderful person.

Answer 2

I think that would be great. A good song will be I will remember you by Sarah McLachlan, Will you remember by Cranberries, Please Remember Leann Rimes. You can search the internet for songs about remembering. Hope that helps. Congrats on the wedding!!

Answer 3

It's a nice gesture to want to remember the sister, however, it may change the feeling of the occasion.  A statement by the DJ saying that the song is in remembrance or dedicated to would be sufficient.  You want tears of joy not sadness at your wedding.

Answer 4

I think it's very nice that you wish to memorialize your fiance's sister - however, you also want to avoid changing a joyous occasion into a very sad one.  I think the slideshow would probably be too much and would REALLY start the waterworks.  There are probably a lot of yet-unresolved emotions on the part of many of your guests (especially considering the way she died), so you don't want to draw *too* much attention to it.  I think the idea of having a dance between your fiance and your sister is very sweet, yet not overdone.  If you really want to make sure people know what's going on, perhaps you could have a small table in the reception room displaying a picture of your fiance's sister and a short memorial note.  

You could also say a prayer or observe a moment of silence during your wedding ceremony (with an appropriate note in the programs, if you have them) in order to honour her memory.

Remember that this is ultimately, however, a joyous occasion to celebrate the marriage of you and your husband, so try not to weigh it down with heavy emotions.  Your future in-laws may already be having a hard time dealing with the day in recognizing that she is not there to see it, so you don't want to make it harder for them to celebrate with you.

Best wishes for you and your future husband.