Will be 4 in November...still wears pull-ups to bed

Question

My son who will be 4 in November still wears pull-ups to bed. He is totally potty trained during the day. Try not to give liquids b/4 bed.

Any thoughts?

Answer 1

totallyy normal!

my brother wore pull ups

till he was like alomst

5. But he had some issues with

the toilet! ; D

Its totally fine just keep the liquids

away at night and then slowly change

to underwear!!

Answer 2

First off, DON'T deny liquids in an effort to curb nighttime potty. If your child is thirsty, he/she is thirsty. I give my own son warm milk before bedtime occasionally and usually quite a bit of liquids (he's now 6) and he's never had an accident. He does still wake up (rarely--as in maybe 2 times over the last 2 years?) and announce he's got to go potty-and I just say, "It's okay, go, you don't need to ask." and our bathroom has a very bright nightlight so he can easily find his way and go. Without the pull-ups (heck, there are so many times when I wake up and have to pee and think, "Gosh! I just don't feel like getting out of bed!" if I was wearing pull-ups, I wouldn't have to), after maybe an accident or two (with a waterproof mattress cover), he'll quickly learn that he either needs to go before getting in bed or how to get up and go to the bathroom whenever he needs to go. Take away the safety net and your son will know what he needs to do.  

Answer 3

allow his body to mature at its pace -not yours.  wake the child to use the potty before you go to bed each nite.  if you think that he needs to see a doctor, make an appointment.

Answer 4

It takes some kids way longer to stay dry at night. My son was 10, we tried everything and did what the doctor said. Our family has a history of bed wetters, yours might not, but I can say they aren't being lazy and to deal with it nicely. Even though we never shamed my son, he was ashamed and missed out on a lot of sleepovers, this was before pull ups so you are lucky to have them.  

Answer 5

I started having my son, now 5, go to the bathroom after he brushs his teeth at night. Doesn't always work, accidents happen, just not as much. Now he'll wake up in the middle of the night to go if he has to :P

Answer 6

Well the easiest way to train him at night is to take away the pull-ups. The pull-ups are teaching him that even if he wets its okay. (And its also laziness on the parents part, please I meant no offense ) Get one of those plastic sheets to cover his bed with. (that way if he has an accident it will be easier to clean up. When he goes to bed take him to the bathroom make him go. (at least try) Then take him again right before you go to bed. Then set your alarm for 1:00 and 4:00. Wake him up and make him walk himself to the bathroom. (Don't carry him) It may sound tedious but in time he will train himself to wake up on his own. Not giving liquids is a good idea.So keep it up.

Once he's trained at night it will be much easier. And a little cheaper. Don't make him reliant on the pull-ups either. I know a 6 (almost 7) year old who still wears them. It just kills me.

Answer 7

Stop all liquids after 5:00pm, do not give him any soda at all, soda causes gas, gas causes bloating and bloating causes pressure on the bladder.  Set a clock for about midnight get up and take him to the bathroom (yes even if he is asleep).  Or keep him in the pullups until he is fully potty trained, that could be a year or two.

Answer 8

Plenty of children are still in pull ups/wetting at night, I just dont think many parents talk about it as they feel that it is abnormal.

Boys especially seem to find this nighttime transition hard. Perhaps speak to his doc - without him there, so he doesnt feel like he is wrong or ill by being in pull ups still. The doc can reassure you more so as he/she will have heaps of experience with childrens toileting issues.

One thing I remember as a child is being afraid to get up in the night to pee because it was dark and I worried about the usual 'monsters' getting me etc so make sure the route to the toilet is non threatening (one of those plug in night/day sensor lights might be good).

Seeing as he will be 4 in Nov it might be a thing that you talk about 'when you are 4' you wont have to wear pull ups at night etc and gradually 'implant' the idea in his head that soon he will be going to bed without pullups and going to the toilet like 'a big boy'. Maybe that might help - making a concious decsion to work on it and with his help and knowledge that as he is nearly 4 this is what you do - he might be pretty proud of becoming a 'big boy' and his help and enthusiasm over this might be just what you need to pass through this stage.

I have taught and cared for  a number of children who have toileting issues which parents have brought to my attention, due to camps or children needing to be reminded to go in the school day etc and it is suprising how many kids are still in nappies/pull ups at night still at primary school. There are other 'suprising' issues to like children still drinking milk from bottles at night at 5 to get them to sleep and things like that. Every family has their own time and way.

You grow up eventually at your own pace with the supportive guidance of parents. Dont stress it will happen in time, he wont be in pull ups still at 18 I dont imagine so somewhere along the line the transition will happen!

Things always fall into place and if they dont then there are things that can be done to gently help children to progress in the right direction.

He will be fine :)

Answer 9

im not sure but my cousin didnt stop bed wetting til like 6

i wasnt even potty trained til 4

maybe my family is 'special' though

Answer 10

just encourage him, dont make a big deal, my daughter was almost 6 until she was fully out of pull ups at night, when hes ready, he'll do it, some take longer than others, its not a big concern

Answer 11

Nothing at all unusual about that. Just be patient and give his body a chance to become more sensitive to the signals. Be glad that he's such a good sleeper :) We went through the same thing and had more than a few leaky nights. But it was around age 4.5 that our son gave up the pants.  

Answer 12

having the same problem . except with a girl. I have twins and one doesnt pee the bed and the other does they are 3 . So I;ve tried not giving liquids before bed and then trying to let her know that the bathroom light is on if she needs to go .  ( looking at maybe , scared to get out of bed ) ? But yeah I  from exsperiencee now I think they will learn when they are ready and all kids are different . Good luck

!!!!!!!!!

Answer 13

It's a bit rare. I'd suggest working on it ASAP.  

Answer 14

Its totally normal.  My son is almost six and still needs them at night.  Some kids just take longer to be night trained.

Answer 15

wow

Answer 16

I feel like that could be a good idea, just in case! He'll grow out of it soon.

Answer 17

water proof the bed he knows before he goes to be he can pee if no  pull up he may hold it knowing it even when asleep  

Answer 18

Its really not a certain age where you should stop making them wear one, it's when you think they are ready. My brother is 7 now and still wears one, I beleive I was around 4 though. It all depends on the child. No drinks befor bed is a really good idea, it does help.

Answer 19

That is perfectly common! I am a child development major, and many boys take longer to potty train than girls.  Usually a boy is potty trained during the day around 2-3 and at night he could still be wetting the bed at age 5.  Girls are usually completely night potty trained at 4 at the latest.  You're doing a great job! Also, those new pull ups where the child feels wet is a great way to teach the child, because he will wake up at night.

Answer 20

He may have a small bladder. My sister was almost 9 before she got rid of pull-ups before bed. Her doctor said it's very common that bladders take longer to develop. He said it was porbably about the size of a peanut, so it didn't surprise him that she couldn't hold it all night! Don't worry about it. It's a very normal problem.

Answer 21

have you told a pediatrician about this? there's physical problems that can cause frequent bed wetting and medications that can lower urine production while they sleep. If there's no physical reason, it may just take a little longer. I took a little longer to potty train than my sister, though once I was fully trained, I never wet the bed. My cousin wore diapers to bed until she was ten, so it's not unheard of.  

Answer 22

Nothing abnormal about that.  They say that up until about age 9 (3rd grade) it is not considered anything to worry about.  

No drinks 2 hours before bed

Go to the bathroom before bed

Make sure child is not over tired

Time and patience♥

Answer 23

i had two friends that wet there bed until they were 10 years old. i dont think your son has a problem yet

Answer 24

just goes to show you at how marketing affects parents which in turns affects their children to be more reliable on their moms to by expensive products for their kids--ultimately leading to severe mental retardation in the child

Answer 25

My daughter is 4 now, and I took her to the doctor for the same problem. He said that it's actually a lot more common than you think. My daughter has been potty trained forever, but frequently has trouble at night. He said not to worry about it, give it some more time, that her bladder just must not be matured enough to give her strong urges to pee to wake her up. If it continues into age 6 or so, then it's a problem to look into. He said to just give water after dinnertime, but not to severely restrict her fluid intake in the evening. It has helped a lot, and she's doing much better. I get those new disposable underwear that Pampers has, and they fit more like regular underwear. I don't make a big deal about it when they're wet in the morning, but say "Hey cool! They're dry!" when they're dry, and that makes her feel better.  

Answer 26

He is fine. My son stopped wearing night pull ups just right before he turned 4 himself. It is written that some kids, particularly boys can have a hard time holding it all night, even if you withhold liquids before bed. My husband was a bed wetter up until around age 6, and I had a friend growing up who also used to wet the bed almost every night until he was about 6. You may want to try a few times without pull-ups and see if that helps, but if it doesn't I would continue to let him wear pull-ups. It's not like he wants to do it, he just can't help it. My son still has accidents from time to time too. Some kids will have them all the time. Just continue with the pull-ups, and he will eventually grow out of it when his body is ready - my husband and friend no longer wet the bed. There is hope.  

Answer 27

Let him wear regular underwear.  I know it sounds messy, but he will not like the feeling of it and it will wake him up.  Eventually he will learn to control his bladder in his sleep, or at least wake up and go.  

Answer 28

Start putting him to bed an hour earlier, some children who get overly tired have more trouble waking when they need to. Cut all liquids 2 hours before bed. If he needs a drink right before bed, only allow 2oz and tell him that when he stops wetting his pull-up then he can drink more. If he still is wetting then I would get the bed wetting alarm, he goes in his pants and when he starts to wet it wakes him, it teaches him to wake when he has to pee. I personally would take the pull-ups off and allow him to wet himself a few times (protect his mattress) maybe when he wakes soaking wet he will learn to wake when he has to pee. In 22 years the only children who still wet after 3 years old, usually were not held responsible for their wetting, like make him clean up his bed sheets and clothing the next day. Once the parents started making them take responsibility they stopped wetting, getting rid of pull-ups is the best way to do this.