Will friends and family expect me to fill out a bridal registry if I am getting married for the second time?

Question

We are not expecting gifts and the wedding will be very small (around 30 people), but we also don't want to receive random gifts that we potentially don't need and/or like.

Answer 1

I say go for it.  Your family and friends love you and want to share in your special day.  I don't think they would show up to your wedding without a gift.  Why not make it easier on them by completing a registry.

Answer 2

I think registering for gifts would be a little tacky.  Longtime friends will have already given you one wedding gift and will probably feel obligated to get you another.  My best friend did this and worried and grieved about whether or not it was the right thing to do to the point she didn't even enjoy her shower (the second one).

I wouldn't put wording about gifts on the invitation (any mention of gifts, even if it is telling guests not to bring one is in poor taste on an invitation) and since your guests won't receive a shower invitation, that should pretty much settle it.  Some people may still want to bring you something and even if it's something you don't like or don't need, just smile and say thank you (and drag it out of the closet if they ever visit).  This way no one will be offended and the worst thing you have to deal with is a few extra items around the house (that you can always donate to Goodwill if you just really don't have the space...the person who gave it to you need never know).

Answer 3

No they will not. A good idea is to put something on the invitation like "No gifts, please." Or maybe an option to donate to a charity.

Answer 4

I understand what you mean about receiving random gifts.  However, since you are getting married for the second time, if you register some people might think it is rude.  Especially those people who bought gifts for your first wedding.  You could say "no gifts", that wouldn't be rude.

Answer 5

Maybe you can put a discreet "No gifts" on the invitation.

Or spread the word through your bridesmaid, mother or sister.