Will he ever commit?

Question

I've been dating this guy for a little over a year now. He is in the army and just told me that he signed up for Special Forces training. Something he really wants to do! Which would involve him having to move to the east cost! We love each other. He says it. I say it. He says that he wants to help me raise my daughter. She isn't his. But he's been with me sense she was 2 moths old. He is very sweet to me and my girl. We are family! Says he cares for US a lot. If he makes the training. He will be gone for 2 years. But he says he'll be back. He has had commitment issues in the past. The last girl asked for a ring right before he went to boot camp.He said he wasn't ready for that and went off to the army. she later cheated on him with his best friend. Does my man use running away, to get away from woman that want commitment? Is my man afraid of commitment. Or just being cautious.... We are serious about each other. But i just cant stop thinking about needing some kind of reassurance! He says time will tell if we're meant to be. Am I just a toy for the army guy?

I need this relationship to be validated before he goes. So i can have some peace that he wont go shopping for something else.

Answer 1

Really  hon,  the  commitment  thingy  should  have  been  discussed  and  settled  before  you  began  making  out  with  him  and  certainly  before  starting  sexual  activity  with  him.  It  doesn't  sound  very  promising  to  me.  Sorry.

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Answer 2

military love is probably the hardest thing ever.. im sure hes scared. it happened to him while he was away. i mean yeah hes gonna be gone for 2 years.. and sometimes women cant take that. so they find someone else because its convineant and their closer. 2 years is such a long time to wait for someone to come home and it makes me so sad to even hear that. if your willing to wait for him and remain faithful. then tell him. i dont know what kind of "reassurance" he can give you but his word.. :(  myabe he will pop the question before he leaves. other than that.. your gonna have to trust him.. & vice versa.

Answer 3

i think you dont get this guy at all and your making **** up in your stressed out mind, he sounds great