Will he ever talk to me again?

Question

me and my guy friend were really close, he had a girlfriend but he would flirt with me alot and hint at wanting a relationship... for 4 months he consistantly pursued me and when we finally chilled one day, he kissed me, twice while he had a girlfriend and spent the night (no s*x cuz im not like that)..the next day,he completely ignored me (didnt answer phone or text, nothing) the day after that, he apologizes, tells me that he wants to be commited to his girl and that she means the world to him, and we can only be friends, i was so hurt, and i told him how i felt about the situation, but i agreed to continue the friendship..but he he never talks to me again after that..ignoring me..why would he do that?

i tried to reach out and find out what happened but he wont answer me AT ALL!! what should i do?

Answer 1

having anything to do with cheating is bad news. simple as that. cheating is very much like tight-rope walking; one bad move, and you've fallen into a world of emotional torment, shunning, embarrassment, disrespect, etc. sure, some people get away with it 'fine'. but what many people don't realize is how cheating can affect their self-worth as well as their chances of getting into/maintaining a serious relationship. when it really boils down to it, just ask yourself, what part do you want to play in all this? do you want to be the 'other man/woman'? do you want to be the partner who's sneaking around, constantly worried of being found out? do you want to be the partner who's completely oblivious to his/her partner's affairs, or completely taken over by suspicion, feelings of betrayal and hopelessness? whichever role you play, there is always something at stake. sure, you didn't sleep with the guy, which shows you've got some pride, but how much self-respect can you have if you're kissing someone else's boyfriend?

another thing; don't call guys. they should call you. if guys want to be with you, they will do everything in their power to do just that--including dumping their girlfriend and leaving an unsatisfactory relationship in order to pursue one with potential.

clearly, this guy didn't care enough for you. besides, in the great scheme of things, why should you care for 'hints' and 'pursuing' if all it can ever lead to is cheating?

the reason he's ignoring you is because he's not into you. think of it this way; by staying with his girlfriend he was telling you, all along, i don't want to be with you. simple as that. he's made up his mind, and there's hardly any chance that obsessive calls and texts will ever change his mind. your behavior has already triggered the exact opposite reaction you were hoping for, so you might as well put your phone down and go find yourself a man who's unattached, right? besides, you know very well what happened. he kissed you. he crawled back to his girlfriend and left you hanging in the balance.  

at this point, i would leave him be. even if you do stop calling/texting him (which, for your sake, i hope you do) and he breaks up with his girlfriend, calls you and says he wants to be with you, keep in mind; you're dealing with a cheater. the same guy who thought it would be okay to flirt with, 'pursue' and kiss another girl.

what i'm really getting at is this; do yourself a favor. stay away from cheating altogether. there's no better way to get over someone than to go out, meet new people and mingle. the sooner you stop putting up with cheaters, jerks, and so on, the sooner you'll find yourself looking for and finding higher caliber men. an unhappy relationship/cheating are not 'better than nothing'. of course, being alone is tough sometimes. but i'm sure you'll be much happier in the future if you stick to your guns and tell yourself you can do better than a guy who doesn't treat you like a queen (as he rightfully should.)

Answer 2

Nothing I WOULD JUST LIKE TO SAY UR A HORRIBLE PERSON

FOR EVEN KISSING HIM BACK AND LETTING HIM SPEND THE NIGHT .. LEAVE HIM ALONE  .. He wants to be with his girl LET HIM OKAY!

Answer 3

i think you should give him some space. He probably is messing wiht you.

Answer 4

homewrecker!

Answer 5

U want to know why? its b/c he wants to stay faithful to his girl, and u need to respect that  and his wishes, firstly he went too far the first time by kissing you, secondly he stayed the night, w/out s*x, well that's a bit hard to believe, thirdly u wonder why he wants nothing to do w/u, well i would cut all ties with him anyway, and move on to someone that's free and single.