Will he forgive what i did,,,,,?

Question

long story short, my husband left me and our kids while we were on vacation at my families (toke the money, didnt get us a plane back, and changed number and moved out). I was in shock it hit me from the left feild our relationship was getting a lot better and we both were happy when i left. anyway.... during that time his family told me he moved on and is sorry. I got p**s drunk had s*x with old friend (dont remember much). but my husband and i are working it out and he wants to be back with me we sought help and he bought us a new home to move into and he asked the question.....DID I HAVE s*x WITH ANYONE well i dont lie so i told him the complete truth and now he is not wanting to be w me. He said he was faithful, and he wants the kids and is really mad. anyway is he going to get over it or should i or what should i do to make it better????

Answer 1

Its good that you were honest wiht him...even though you cheated...it shows you have some sort of integrity...give him some time...for men...when a womoan we love cheats on us...it hits us hard. We dont love as easily but when we do we love just as hard as females do. He is still trying to get over it...it may take some time...you can show him how much he means to you by just giving him time...stay faithful in the meantime...let him know you are there form time to time....and that you love him...I cant say he will definitley come back, but its the only way...its 50/50..... But if you bug and beg it will not make it any better...right now he is probably in a disgusted phase that may take a while to get over. I will pray that your marraige is restored. : )

Answer 2

Talk to your counselor about it. He left you and you felt abandoned, his bad, you got drunk and cheated, your bad. Both of you haven't bee the best people to each other. If your going to work it out you need to talk....a lot!

Answer 3

You know i think i have discovered where Jerry springer gets his guests.  It's gotta be from Yahoo answers.

All i can say is your going to end up divorced one way or another, it's a shame that the two of you got back together.  Now the kids get to go through the perverbial emotional yo-yo as their two supposed adult parents run around acting like children, until the adults realize that getting back together was a huge mistake.

Answer 4

Go on with your life, because he destroyed the marriage in the beginning when he left you with nothing.  He had no reason for asking whether or not you cheated while being separated because he left you high and dry.  How do you know he was faithful, at least you were woman enough to tell him the truth when asked.  I am sure you can do better with another relationship or just stay single until the appropriate time.  Good Luck.

Answer 5

move on.  there are too many out there to put up with this nonsense

Answer 6

If he really loves you he will forgive you....You were honest when he asked.....He is the one that abandoned you without any warning...Not saying your are justified in sleeping with this old friend....Not even sure how long your husband was gone...but he does owe you an attempt to forgive you....He also needs to be asking for forgiveness....

Answer 7

Well, i don't think he'll ever forgive what you did. Its even possible that he has been looking for an excuse, why else would he behave like that? If you still want to be with him then continue begging for forgiveness, but i don't think your kids would be happy if they find out. In such cases, its better to keep somthings secret; no man would know that his wife slept with another person and still want to be with her. I'm not encouraging you to lie, but i just feel you should have told him at a a more convinent time.

Well, all the best dearie, we can't tell you here if your husband would forgive you or not, but its gonna be hard considering the fact that he's been misbehaving

Answer 8

He has no right to judge you after leaving you while on vacation.

He totally deserved it.

Answer 9

This is a no-brainer. Although you had s*x with another man while still married, what you husband did to you AND your children was worse. Why would you even want to try to work it out with this jerk? Anyone who would leave his family in such a situation doesn't deserve them. And good for you for being honest. It will help you lose this a**hole sooner than later.

Answer 10

why are u with him after what he did i dont get it

Answer 11

Only the two of you can answer this question and I hope it will be for reconciliation.  In my opinion, men tend to take this kind of thing harder than we do.  You were broken up when this happened but that's not how he's feeling.  Maybe he'll be open to couples counseling?  Maybe time will heal this wound?  For now all I can suggest is to tell him you love him, are 100% committed to making a relationship work & are giving him a breather to step back from this & hopefully reconcile.  Good luck!  I'm rooting for you!

Answer 12

wow, both of you are idiots, kids are involved and drinking and s*x...ugh, its over....move on. Start out new again. What you got back there is a mess that is probably very hard to clear.  

Answer 13

Frankly, I'd be worried to even go back with HIM......he showed that he is capable of taking all the money, completely abandoning you and your children (out of town, even!) and he has the nerve to be mad at you?

He had it coming.

Answer 14

Do you REALLY want this manipulative, untrustworthy freak back?  Hon, you and your kids deserve better: get a lawyer and take that son of a witch for all he's got and move on!  And make HIM pay your lawyer...

Answer 15

Okay, What was worse..  I think what he did by far outweighs some drunken, meaningless one night stand.  If YOU can forgive him for the hurt and pain he caused you.  He should forgive you and you both work through it.  IF he can't, honey you deserve so much better!

  I wish you all the Strength and Happiness for you and your children!

Answer 16

You did yourself a big favor; he doesn't want to get back and is mad at you, perfect. You're off the hook. The guy is a complete and total loser and will take off again and again as long as you permit him back into your life; how could you even consider getting back with someone who left you high and dry with no notice, no warning, etc? Dump his sorry a$$ and move on.