its not just anger, something that an anger management course would address.
its deep intense - jaw clenching - intense rage , the type where if someone speaks down to you or rejects you or patronises you - you feel like , ( and this is only thoughts )
that you could viciously batter that person downwards into the concrete consistantly with a heavy blunt object.
until the persons skull gives in, then you continue to viciously batter the remainder of their skull in , whilst clenching your teeth and dribbling at the mouth..
i no its wrong to think like that believe me i know.
but what im trying to explain is that with me that its not just anger problems.
if i see people happy i feel jealous, enraged and i feel i want to beat them mercilessley whilst clenching my teeth.....deny them their happiness like its been taken from me.
of course ive never done any of these things and im far from being a ' tough guy '.
its just in my life ive been physically and mentally tormented, bullied, victimised all the way through my life.
im now 30, with borderline personality disorder and post traumatic stress - i live alone in a one bedroom flat on disability benefits......i own nothing except for a dusty old computer.
ive missed out on virtualy everything in life : never formed any relationships - suffer severe i mean SEVERE low self worth - never been employed or gained qualifications..
in the past ive acted desperate and out of character to try and be accepted and form relationships........my efforts have always been rejected........
people are aloof and back away from me.........ive had the internet for 3 years and because of my deep thinking....intensity......clingyness...... low self worth......mood swings.....the need for intamacy straight away - over bearingness - ive lost alot of potential relationships - alot of people have abandoned me.
im presentley waiting to hear if they will offer me group therapy..
i feel lonely and alienated from society, alot of people seem to treat me ' aloofly ' and stand offish.
or like some desperate charity case who is desperate for acceptance and needs to be accepted as a charity case..
every day i experience deep rage feelings.....very quickly become enraged if i feel patronised....jealous of happy people........if i feel im being spoken down to..
i sit here in my flat and i get flashbacks to being severley bullied, relive the moments......then i quickly feel like ' smashing sombodies head in '
i stew over my circumstances and dwell on how much ive suffered and missed out in life......the fact that ive never been in any relationships.......that im far away from my desried goals..
then once again the intensity returns and i feel deeply angry and aggressive...
i headbutt my apartment walls and doors - bite doors so i can feel hardness to to clench my teeth on to...
growl to myself - pull intense looks in the mirror - ring the suicide hotline and pick arguments with the workers.....shout threats down the phone..
they are mostly aloof and patronising to me anyway and dont talk back but instead ignore me -- so thats all i need to lose it on the phone with them.
some laugh at me.....wind me up more or if i get really aggressive they hang up.
i have severe anxiety to , and coupled with the severe aggressive feelings - im a prisoner in my flat and am afraid to go out incase i cant handle a situation and lose it..
im fearful of losing it, because the rage just overtakes me where i feel completley out of control.
in the past i used to have rage outburst in public where id lose it whilst out, push people over, get attacked by strangers.......get cautioned by the police etc.
ive been very lucky thankgod, and ive made vast improvements with controling my rage since then , ive managed well for a long time.
but i still have the deep intense aggressive feelings..
im 30 now and am literally a society desperado, im starting from scratch , never achieved nothing.
my goals are to get a good paying job in computers then to permenantly leave the uk to somewhere hot n sunny.
but those goals seem out of reach and unachievable right now.
and out of all my problems the aggression and the rage i would say is the worst and most crippling.
will i ever be free of it ?
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