Will i have s*x with him?

Question

so im 16 and i have been goin out with this guy since i was 14.and we havent had s*x yet.and i know im ready. and i know all about protection and stds and safe s*x.so me and him were talking and he said hes ready aswell and that if i want to we both can.hes the gentlest boy ever and i know he wont hurt me.ive stayded at his house lots of times and slept in his bed with him but not have s*x with him.now i know both of us are ready and my mum gave me the talk when i was 12 and she gave me another talk a few months ago.my mum knows im in a relationship and all that what im asking is do you think we should go ahead with it since we are both ready and i know hes a wonderfull guy and that i trust him and he willmake it special .?do you think i should tell my mum if we do?what age did you lose your virginity at?

Answer 1

it will happen when it happens dont think bout it to much. i know you say ur both ready but when u truly are ready it will just feel natural. it seems your trying to force it a bit at the moment and even if u and ur bf r in love and have been together a while if things feels forced neither of u will enjoy it.

im not saying wait, and im not say go jump into bed with him now. just let it happen when it happens.

i was wayyyy to young when i lost mine and i regret it now.

as for telling your mum, thats entirely up to you, if u feel you can have that convosation with your mum then yes if not then dont its all up to you at the end of the day and nothing anyone says on here should make a differance to what u do. just maybe advise u a lil bit.

Answer 2

why don't you just be spontaneous and not make a decision, and if the situation comes and your feelin like the time is now go 4 it but don't make a predetermined decision

but if you do have s*x i wouldn't tell your mom, it'd just be weird, but i don't know you all's relationship

Answer 3

Your hormones are ragin cuz u think u love the guy and u may, but still ur too young to want to have s*x. you lose ur virginty at wuteva age u get married, just wait. Go through with high school and at least graduate. don't make s*x such a huge factor until your older. If u'd liked to die, tell ur mom. Tell your mom beforehand how ur feelin if u think ur so ready to have s*x

Answer 4

I was 15 and I wish I would have waited.  It wasn't all that great at all and we didn't stay together long after.  I have a friend that dated her boyfriend (husband now) all through jr high, high school and college and they waited until their wedding night to have s*x.  She said it was the most special thing they ever could have done and she will never regret waiting.  They are the two most in love people I have ever seen.  Lucky them.

Answer 5

I lost my virginity to a guy I had been dating for a year and I was 14. kudos for sharing a bed and not having s*x though... serious self control. make sure you're protected.. try to get on the pill. you can get it at planned parenthood or ask your mom if you think she'll help... my mom didnt know untill this summer and it had been going on all year.

Answer 6

Hi,

Well firstly you both at the age of consent meaning if you want to have s*x you are at legal age to do so.

Also you both sound extremely mature to be able to sit down together and discuss this issue and protect yourselves by talking about contraception and the risks of having s*x.

You both sound like you trust one another enough to be able to discuss these things and feel ease at being inimate with one another.

I say just look into different forms of contraception if haven't already and make sure you have it ready for when time comes.

Also don't feel pressuried at all - take all the time you need. If he loves and respects you enough, he will wait, just as you will do same for him if he feels he is not ready.

Don't think much about it, just take it nice and slowly and go from there.

When it first happens it can feel a little uncomfortable at first - that normal and it NOT true that every woman bleeds during s*x! You may do a little bit but it not like a period - just a little 'spotting' thats all. I didn't bleed when I first lost my virginity.

Also it can be very emotional so don't worry if you get a bit tearful afterwards - it a truely overwhelming emotional feeling so make sure you hug and kiss afterwards!!!

Just take your time and go from there and you will be fine!

Lx  

Answer 7

well as long as your very sure about protection & that your 100% ready, i don't see why not. just make sure you won't regret it afterwards, because once you lose your virginity, there's no going back! i'm still a virgin, thank god, because if i'd of lost it to my ex of one year, i'd seriously regret it.  

Answer 8

Go for ill give you the green light well ya 16 and you been togeather 2 years.My first time I was 15 im 26 now but what the hek.

Answer 9

it will happen when it happens dont think bout it to much. i know you say ur both ready but when u truly are ready it will just feel natural. it seems your trying to force it a bit at the moment and even if u and ur bf r in love and have been together a while if things feels forced neither of u will enjoy it.

im not saying wait, and im not say go jump into bed with him now. just let it happen when it happens.

i was wayyyy to young when i lost mine and i regret it now.

as for telling your mum, thats entirely up to you, if u feel you can have that convosation with your mum then yes if not then dont its all up to you at the end of the day and nothing anyone says on here should make a differance to what u do

Answer 10

well your 16 so legally you can, if you've been together for 2 years then.....maybe it's ok. But make sure you make your first time special!

It will make all the difference.

I was 14 when i lost mine, i gave it away to some bozo when i was drunk, i was going through a really bad time with my father and i didn't have much respect for myself at the time. I met my now partner a few months later and we have been together 7 years, having s*x when your in love is soooooo much better. Please make sure your IN love before you give your body to this person, oh and use protection!

Answer 11

It seems to me that you are ready you are at the legal age so why not you have been in a relationship with him for 2 years so you havent rushed anything. You know him well and he knows you well. I would let your mum know if you are close and you feel comfortable talking to her about it. I am sure she would be interested. :)

Answer 12

I'm 16, and still virgin. I don't have anything against s*x before marriage; I think as long as you're with someone you're really sure about (and comfortable with), then it should be okay. Of course, use protection..yadda yadda yadda..you get the point.

As for telling your mom, you might want to wait a little while for that. Even if you're being responsible about it, your mom will probably still freak.  

Answer 13

Hope you are going along with abstinence because you should only have s*x if you are having children. You people should understand about all the downsides to doing this.

Answer 14

it does not matter what age we lost your virginity at.

dont ask us if your ready , we would never know that.

decide that on your own ,

and put alot of thought into it.

make sure when it really does happen ,

its special , something , you wouldnt mind remembering.

Answer 15

16 year olds are stupid and dont know anything yet! you will get pregnant, and then be stuck with a 16 year old father of your child, with no money and no help!  what is wrong with you? its waaaaaaay too early to have s*x!  you arent suppose to have s*x until you are married first anyway. Its in the bible!

wait, or else have fun being pregnant and having a baby at 16 years old.

enjoy!

Answer 16

im 14, i havent went THAT far but probably further than i shouldve gone

but i say just do it id you feel ready and you wanna do it, if you dont then dont  

Answer 17

I think if you are both ready then go for it. As long as ur safe it should be ok. Your both old enough to decide what you want and you've been together for 2 years so you must trust each other and love each other alot.

As for telling your mum, that is up 2 you. If you think she will be ok about it then there is no reason why you shouldnt.

I lost my virginity when i was 15 but it was the worst thing i've ever done tbh. But now im in a good relationship with a great guy who i trust. I have told my mum about us having s*x. She was fine with it as long as we were being safe. (I'm almost 18 btw)