Will illegitimate children be social outcasts in a few years time when fashion changes?

Question

I believe that they will and that they will be treated as second class people. Do you want this for your child?

Source, The Times.

Answer 1

My partner and I have 2 children, and we never married. I think you are wrong that they will become second class citizens in the future. A couple of years back I was in my kids school talking to the headmaster about this issue, because I was concerned the other kids would tease my children about this. He told me that about half of the children in the school still lived with both natural  parents. The rest of them either lived with one parent or had a step-parent. He regarded the ones with both natural parents as being the lucky ones, and it was the others we should be worried about.

Answer 2

Of course they will. Only people who cant face the truth will think otherwise. Illigitimate children are alredy being treated badly and any women who has one is being selfish and are certainly not thinking of there child but only of themselves.

Answer 3

no i dont think they will .  why would they be its not the childs fault .

Answer 4

No. You can however make them social outcasts by secretly hiding fish heads in their jacket pockets when you send them to school.

Answer 5

Unless everyone mysteriously gets abducted by Doctor Who and ends up in the 1800's I think they should be all right.

Families are getting much more diverse and different structures are becoming more common. Also, the divorce rate has risen rapidly and less people are choosing to marry as people are becoming more secular and moving away from traditional family values. This would give more illegitimate children in the future.

So in answer to your question, no.

If only my sociology teacher could be here to see this post. Ah well

Answer 6

I'm a 20 year old illigitamet "child" and it hasn't affected my life AT ALL. Very few people outside the family even know that, and would have a tough time guessing it.

Why should marriage affect the parents' abilities of raising a child anyway? I genuinely don't understand the big deal.

Answer 7

Who gives a s**t  co's i don't

Answer 8

I don't think so - people are broad-minded enough to appreciate that it's not the child's fault - sins of the fathers etc. There are now more children being born outside marriage than within so that will make them the majority of future public opinion.

Answer 9

"b*****d" "illigitimite"  children......gone are the days you have to send them away to boarding schools to hide the shame of it all.....i've known far too many people that got married for the sake that they got pregnat then divorced months later......okay so technically the child was born in wedlock but just barely.....does that really make a difference?

maybe they just lived together a while...maybey your adopted.....maybe it was a one night stand......who cares!!!

Answer 10

No. The days when a child needed to be the product of a marriage are long gone, thankfully.

I think it would be wise to change your source to "behinf the times"!

Answer 11

Are you serious? Are you living in the cave man era? do you not realise that society is made up of children from all sorts of backgrounds, and that some of these children are very successful - famous athletes, musicians, politians - even religious leaders!

Get a grip - The circumstaances of your birth don't determine your future your efforts, actions attitudes and behaviours do.

Answer 12

no i dont think so, because i honestly believe that there are more people like me who think that illegitmate children are just the same as non illegitimate children.

Answer 13

What a sancitmonious question, and most defamatory to all people who are born illegitimately.

Where are you living....Back in the dark ages?

You are being self righteous, and high minded, SNOB.

Answer 14

I don't think so. It has always been the Parents fault, I think the child will be OK for them, but parents watch out.

Answer 15

I hope not! Athough I am marrying a wonderful man in a matter of days my daughter was born illegitimately (father left when I was pregnant)

And sorry but I always believed that an illegitimate child was a child born out of wed lock and there are a lot of families around that are fantastic where the parents arent married!!

Seeing the link would be helpful

Answer 16

I don't think so.

Answer 17

I hope not! I am a single parent and have an illegitimate child, but do't see what this should have to do with how he should be treated in years to come? The world is ever changing and nalthough not always for the better, i think generally people are more broadminded these days. The fact that my Grandparents didn't bat an eyelid when i told them i was expecting just goes to show this. If it had happened 20 odd years ago they probably would have had more to say on the matter and been more worried what others thought. Not so when i told them 4 years ago. Fingers crossed the openminded people outweigh the small minded people!

(They will all be laughing on the pther side of their face when my little one is prime minister!!! lol! Only kidding, wouldn't wish that job on anyone!!)

Answer 18

I think to a certain extent people already have pre-conceived ideas about people who grew up in a household with only on parent, or were born out of wedlock; and tend to pre-judge them depending on where they came from. However, I think it's more likely to go the other way, and getting married will be viewed as a very antiquated and impractical thing, and there will be further acceptance for the illegits. What day's Times was this in? I don't remember reading it, but I'd like to.

Answer 19

No i don't...and post the link if you have it!