Will it always be like this at school :(?

Question

I'm new at my high school, I moved to Kentucky to live with my dad and I'm just now entering 10th grade. This was my first day of school and it was pretty horrible. I should have seen it coming, but everyone had friends from middle school and stuff, and no one talked to me. I felt like a freshmen but worse. And I keep getting seated near really weird people that either smell bad or are just rude. I'm just wondering if it'll always be like this, did you ever know someone that just floated from class to class without really hanging out with people or talking to friends or anything? I'm not ugly or anything but I'm not that good at talking to people. And It's not like homeroom where you have multiple classes with the same people, so I guess no one would really care unless we had to do projects... this a really bad situation or can I live with kinda doing my own thing?

Answer 1

  I feel your pain.  I don't know if this will help you, but my daughter is going through the same thing right now and it's heartbreaking to see her so miserable.  Her first day of school was just going class to class.  She said it was awkward.  About the third day, she got fed up and went around looking for stranglers or students that look new and confused.  She went up a boy who looked lost.  He had the same complaint and they became friends.  Sometimes you just have to dig down deep, relax, and be comfortable about who you are and then go for it.  You will see that there are kids just like you out there.  Best wishes and my heart goes out to you.  Oh, yeah, it helps to talk it out with your parents to up an action plan or input.  You need all the encouragement that you can get.  Be safe.

P.S. You may want to join a club

Answer 2

Go to some kind of school club or involve yourself in some sort of activitie.It\ll help.I promise!

Answer 3

o wow...sorry...im going to a new school too in a week and a half..i was feeling great but now you make me feel nervous...i knew i person who was a floater and it didnt look fun...i think you should go up to someone that looks fairly normal...tell me how it turns out

Answer 4

The exact same thing happened to me, and I was like you, I wasn't really much at starting and engaging in conversations with alot of people. Take your time though and just work on what you can change. If you are one that's not for smiles, just give it a try some time. If you feel that you can't strike up a conversation easily, try and find something to strike up a conversation about on purpose. Hah, drop your pencil or pen or something, anything to just ease up the tension. Act as natural as you can, and it's ok if people think every different kind of thing about you, their testing the waters, and that's natural and it's completely normal. Just smile and be friendly, it's normal to kind of "scope things out" at first, kind of see who is who and what is what, but don't forget to be open and honest.

It was only your first day, but take it easy, things will work out sooner or later, and if they don't it's going to be okay still, just keep that smile on your face and keep your head up high.

I wish you the best of luck though and don't forget to have fun when you can ;)

Answer 5

if u really wanna be friends with someone, try talking to them. dont wait for someone to approach you, go ahead and do the honors. im kinda scared of being somewhere with no one i know. And this is my 2nd year at my high school, and i still hate it. some places, ppl just wont take to you. but u'll have the time to get to know urself better and become more confident, which may lead to more social experiences.

Answer 6

youll meet ppl eventually u will meet ppl and not even notice it dont b scared u dont have to start up any kinda real conversation r nuthin it will jus happen dont worry about it

Answer 7

Well I know what you are going through, I moved to California at the beginning of my 10th grade year also.  I didn't know anyone either. I was suck in classes with people that were just like your problem. In a lot of my class I didn't really have to many friends and other I got more throughout the year. My best advice to give you is to be you and keep your head up. I am very shy and it was hard for me to talk to people but I would try and make conversation with others.  It will get better more into the year it just takes time. Stay strong and you will meet some great friends.  

Answer 8

Girl, relax!  It is your first day and people are just checking you out.  You are doing the same with them just in a different manner.  First, don't act stuck up or seem so shy buy people think you are stuck up.  Second, smile, people respond to smiles quicker than you think, especially girls.  Girls want to know that you are not after whatever they think they got, be the girl everyone wants to be friends with.  Third, get away from the smelly people.  Even if those are the only ones that you can sit by, go stand somewhere else.  And last, make yourself available, make sure that you are open to talk with people and speak your mind.  Highschool is only 4 years of your life and surprising enough, half of the people I went to highschool with 10 yrs ago, are worse off than I am.  And those were the people I thought I had to impress!