Will it ever stop hurting???

Question

I was in love with this guy from about 3 years. We were dating. I loved him more than anything I was soo crazy about him. I broke up with him about a year ago because he was the typical "bad boy" and I was the typical "good girl" and as we were getting older us being soo different was started to be more obvious. I became super stressed all the time and really depressed because I knew we both didn't fit into each others worlds and I loved him and it hurt.

Its been a year since I broke up with him. When I broke up with him it was on bad terms I just told him off for something he did and cut off all contact with him. I couldn't of done it any other way because I loved him so much so I couldn't just have him as my friend.

For about 3 months I've been dating this guy who's the typical "good boy" and hes alot like me. He is doing really good in life and has all these great goals and dreams. I care about this guy alot. But it seems like one day I can see myself being with him forever and then the next im missing my ex and regretting breaking up with him. One day its like it feels right with my new bf but the next day I miss my ex. Its also hard because my ex moved on too and hes with the typical "bad girl" so its hard seeing him with someone whose sooo different from me.

Why do you think that one day I feel I could be with my new boyfriend for ever and the next it changes?

Will I ever get over my ex?

Thanks!

xx

Answer 1

As cliche as this might sound, I know how you feel.  I was with my ex for 3 years before he cheated on me and dumped me for the other chick.  Two months into their relationship, he got her pregnant.  It's already been about 7 months since the BAD break-up, but it's still hard every single day. I don't know much about this girl, but I know that she is a lot different from me.  I'm dating this other guy now who is 10 steps ahead of my ex in more ways than one, but I still can't get over him.  My new guy has so much more to offer, yet I feel like I miss my ex.  But, what I've come to realize is that I think I'm over my ex, but I'm not over how things ended between us.  A lot of hurtful things were said between us and has left a MAJOR scar.  Even though each day is tough, I keep trying to convince myself that it's for the best and that I'll be happy with someone again one day.  Like everything else, it just takes time....things happen for a reason, right?