Will my child go to CPS?

Question

My in laws want to keep my baby for a week. We have already made it clear that she is to young and we are not ready for this. My problem is that eventually they will keep her because my parents keep her(although my parents live much closer); they do some things that we do not agree with (I would prefer not to say what due to the fact that I don't want anyone I know to know I am posting this) and that could get them in trouble. I don't believe that they would ever intentionally put our daughter but if they were to get in trouble would my daughter go to CPS?

I am so scared about this but do not want it to cause any problems between me and my husband. They never do anything around her but it is still on the property so if we were to leave her for that long she would be around it eventually right? Any suggestions, please help... I am at a loss for what to do. We have bought some time until she gets older but I have to deal with it sometime.

Thank you

Answer 1

it depends what there doing, the only thing i can think of is drugs.......and in this case it realy depends how much they have when they get busted and what they have, i used to live wiht my aunt when i was littler (her husband died a few years earlier) and she got busted for selling marijuanna (which was a shock because i never seen anything like that when i was living there) and they asked my mom if she was able to take care of me, and she said yea so i went back with her

Answer 2

Okay, how old is your daughter? You DO NOT, repeat DO NOT have to leave your child with anyone if you do not feel comfortable. She is YOURS and belongs with YOU. There is NO reason she needs to spend even one night away from you, no matter how old she is if you as her mother are uncomfortable with the situation and do not want her there. I have never let my kids spend a night away from me.

Talk with them and your husband and tell them you are not comfortable with it. You have a voice.. y ou need to use it...

You are concerned which tells me she shoudl NOT be staying with them.... one of the 3 bones you will need in life is your backbone.. now use it!

Answer 3

I don't get it - why would your inlaws "eventually" get your child for a week? Neither of my kids has ever stayed with their inlaws for a week! Not because I don't trust my inlaws, but because she's my child and it's my responsibility to look after her!

She's your child. You keep her, you decide where she stays, who with, and for how long. If you don't want her to go to someone for a week, don't send her there for a week. It's not normal to send a baby to stay with anyone for a week!

Answer 4

Keep your kid at your house if you are SO worried or hire  a sitter...Jesus you don't have to treat the inlaws equally mine hate eachother and do things my mother did not like with me and she grew a pair and said they wouldnt ever see me again unless they clean their sh*t up. Seriously was the child a surprise or something?

*my parents inlaws my grandparents

Answer 5

If there are illegal activities going on around her at someone elses house or just in the house. CPS could very well take her if they went in there at some point and found her.

It doesn't matter that she isn't their child or that shes only visiting. Fact is.... its in the news all the time. Someones child was taken away while at the babysitters, dads, friends.... where ever they left their child when a raid was done. Or trouble broke out.

You don't ever have to send your child anywhere. Your husband needs some sense knocked into him. Why in the world would you HAVE to take a chance with your CHILD?

They want to have/see her?

They can do it at your home when they are clean or away from what ever the issue is. They don't need to bring it into your home.

Safety is your responsibility for your child.

Answer 6

No, your daughter won't go to CPS unless it's proven that you knew the grandparents were doing something dangerous with her.  That aside, if you don't feel comfortable with them watching her, don't let them watch her.  You do NOT have to let them have her; she's not a toy that you have to share with the rest of the family.  She is YOUR child, and it's up to you to do what you think is right for her.  Stand your ground, trust your maternal instincts, and never leave your child with someone who makes you feel uncomfortable.  Good luck.

Answer 7

As the first poster said, if they got into trouble with the law, the child would simply be returned to you.  You didn't do anything wrong.

That said - why on earth would you even consider letting your in laws take her, if you have concerns for your daughter's safety and there is some sort of illegal activities going on?  Just because your parents keep her occasionally, doesn't mean you have to allow your in laws to.  My parents take my kids constantly, and I have never allowed my inlaws to - not due to illegal activities, I just don't trust them.  

It sounds to me like you need to have a talk with your husband and stand up for yourself and your daughter.

Answer 8

If they got into trouble with the law, they would just return your child to you.  You didn't do anything wrong, so CPS wouldn't be removing your child from you.  They might question you as to if you knew about the dangerous situation that you put your child into.

Answer 9

whatever you do or whatever your parents or in-laws says you have to keep one thing in your mind which is its your child. its your child and you have every right to stay and look after your child regardless of what your in laws say. talk to citizens advice bureau for more iformation or you can get in touch with womenaid.org.uk

Answer 10

If they were to get in trouble while they had your child, the child would be kept safe until you came to get her.  She would not be turned over to CPS for any long period of time, but social services would have to be called because of a child being there.  Don't leave your child with them if there is ANY risk of activity that they could be arrested for.  You don't have to deal with it.  You are the parent, they do not need nor do they have a right prolonged visits if they are doing anything in which may in-danger their grandchild.

I can only guess you are meaning they do drugs, and probably nothing hardcore from the tone of what you are saying.  If they know that you know they do it, make that a stipulation.  They they can not smoke while the baby is there, and if they don't follow it, no more visits alone.  These are adults, they should be able to have some self-control.

Answer 11

more than likely cps would return your child to you...but...if they know that you knew what they were doing with their life and you let your child go there...you could have problems for putting your child in that situation. If you truly and honestly know that they are doing something that could cause police or cps to be involved then I would NOT send the child there. (the foster kids I have were removed from Mom because she knew boyfriend was abusive to one and she failed to remove them from home...now I have guardianship till they are 18)

Answer 12

I figure no because its not their child they would call you, and return the child to you, but you might get in trouble for letting the child stay over there if they think you knew what they were doing. But i dont think they would take away your child.

Hope I Helped :)

Answer 13

iF YOU KNEW (WHICH YOU DO) AND LET YOUR CHILD GO THENYOU HAVE PUT HER IN HARMS WAY. (sorry d**n caps lock) for this you are responsible. Explain that you do not want your child exposed to it and that if they want to come and stay at your house for a few days then they are welcome. Your childs welfare is your responsibility.

Answer 14

Leaving a child (knowingly) in the care of neglectful caregives is the same as you neglecting the child.

Case in point is that recent trial where the 17 year old cousin went to jail for allowing his 2 and 3 year old cousins to smoke pot with him and his friends while the children s mother slept. in the next room. The children have since been removed and are in protective custody.

As a parent you have to put the overall protection of your child ahead of any hurt feelings.