Will my fealings change?

Question

i had a baby at 16 years old and now im 20 and i feel as if i never want to have a baby again! my man and i got married and now our son is older he wants another child but being young and looking after a child and getting bad coments and looks at me plus not being able to enjoy my yough (yea i no it was my falt) i feel like i never want one. do you think this will change in time? i have 2 auntys who are married but never wanted kids and have never had any because they never wanted one so i think just like them i may never change to ever want another child

Answer 1

your feelings may change your still young and having a baby at a young age does make some people feel this just talk to your husband let him know how you feel and right now is just not a good time and that you need sometime to really think about how you feel.......he loves you so he will wait.........be proud of yourself you were young and still took responsibility of your actions and that puts you so far ahead of other young girls be proud

Answer 2

well, you learn by doing. you had a baby and youve decided 1 is enough. kids are overwhelming. if your heart isnt in it, your not going to be a good mom. if you arent ready tell your husband. dont let him guilt you into it either. its your body and your the one who carries the child. your body that changes, your hormones that rage out of control and its you who goes through the pain of child birth. it doesnt make you a bad person or mean you dont love the child you have now. it just means your not ready to have anymore. your still very young. i only had 1 child, a son. he's 26 now. he always wished he had a brother or sister but it didnt work out that way. i love him dearly as im sure you do yours. if your not sure about another one, dont do it. more than likely, once your child is ready to start school, you may feel ready. but if you dont, no harm done.

Answer 3

i belive in time all your feelings will change, because a baby it's the most important in a relationship, so good luck, and don't lose your life like this, make a baby and be happy...

Answer 4

your feelings may change or they may not.  it doesnt make you a bad person.  if you dont want another child, then dont.  talk to your husband about it