Will my husband find out im nt a virgin?as im nt it is prerequisite for marriage in our community help plzz?

Question

Will my husband find out im nt a virgin?as im nt it is prerequisite for marriage in our community help plzz?

Answer 1

if hes your husband then how are you still a virgin anyways? just dont tell him i guess

Answer 2

Hard to know about that kind of things.

Answer 3

Yes,it is possible to find. But if in culture it  is serious matter,better never say true to your husband,or better tell before marriage,then he will not marry you and better search a person who can accept not-virgin as wife.  

Answer 4

just pretend to be amatuer in se* among him

Answer 5

I see that you probably have no choice about telling if this is such a big issue where you live.  It is not true that every woman bleeds when she loses her virginity, so in that regard no, he won't be able to tell. Though if you "act" too experienced he might suspect. If you only had s*x once or on a few occasions or not for a long time, then your muscles probably won't be noticeably looser.

Answer 6

ummmm duh.

Answer 7

there is no way that he will know that you aren't a virgin

the only thing he will know is that your hymen didn't break. and that can break at any time from any number of physical activities

Answer 8

Why you lost your virginity?

No body can find out.

Dont worry.

Answer 9

I bet you are from India or pakistan,

Anyways, None can proove or claim her virginity to others. Only a thorough checkup can tell him that you are not a virgin... and loosing virginity is not only about s*x, it can be due to an accident, masterbation and swimming, cycling etc. Moreover vaginal muscles become tight and natural if somone in your age abstain from s*x for 3-4 months. So rest assured and have fun. Dont every tyr to be too nice to him by telling truth, Males can never tolerate their wife's affairs before marriage.

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Answer 10

...so you're starting out a marriage with a lie?  

Answer 11

Well, if he's got brains, he can.

Answer 12

jsut act like one when the time arises

Answer 13

Just don't tell anyone =]

He won't know any other way... Unless he's not one himself.

Answer 14

ya definatly he will find u r not an virgin

Answer 15

I personally think that any such pre-requisite of the bride to be virgin at the time of marriage is not at all legally & constitutionally valid condition for marriage in any community in India. In case this exist then in the name of Custom & Usage such practice is nothing but a wrong practice such as Child marriage or Sati practice which even though banned by law one still find being practiced in remote towns, cities , villages etc in India. If wrong practices exist in some communities that doesn't make these practices legally acceptable. Till the Matrimonial law applicable to the parties of any particular religion (in case of religious matrimonial laws) or the Civil Marriage laws provide any pre-requisite condition that bride has to be virgin at the time of marriage this will not be called a legal acceptable legal provision, & even if there was any such condition for valid marriage in either of the matrimonial enactment in India I would have Challenged its Constitutional Validity in the Court as this condition is not only most unconstitutional condition which is infringes the right to life under Article 21 of the Indian Constitution but it is also infringes Article 14 Right to Equality as this discriminate between men & women for the reason of virginity. Since I'm not aware of the legal status of your community which has brought this pre-requisite condition for valid marriage amongst its member I won't be able to give more of the legal arguments on this condition in your case. Secondly if your community puts such hard & fast rule on you then marry outside your community with a person who is broadminded guy & who doesn't believe in such irrelevant issues for the purpose of marriage.

Answer 16

yes he will get known!

but why are you worrying about this

if you are not virgin you can imagin that your husband may also not pure,

however both may have trust each other

But the main thing for a married life, I think you should tell him what you are and you may also espect to know all about him!

You both should not conceal anything together and should trust for ever and belive in God

wish you a happy married life

Answer 17

If your husband is experienced or done s*x with virgin girls before marriage then he can ask about this from you.

Answer 18

Having s*x is not a BAD thing.....it's a natural human activity so dn't feel guilty if u have done s*x even prior to marriage......what matters is kind of chemistry betwn u  and him.....the love n emotional factor.......n by the way can u know whether HE has done s*x prior to gettin u ?? can u ever ?? so i think virginity is not an issue........not at all......BUT PLZ DO GIVE HIM YOUR LOVE........IT MATTERS.....

Answer 19

so though its not acceptable u had prior s*x....i shdnt say, but sometimes i really hope people cud know bout the virginity of their spouses somehow...but on the otherhand...u r starting a new life so goodluk....please dont repeat it after marriage!

Answer 20

Why should you tell him?

I see that you will get married with somebody who is not open minded at all… Do you really want to marry a man like this?

I mean if he is old fashioned regarding this issue, he will also be with many other things as well.

Personally I do not like men who think that their wife has to be virgin, because they tend to posses a woman like an object.

But of course I understand that in many traditional cultural surroundings there is no way to escape from this topic and telling the truth could either ruin your whole life or even the life of all your family.

I guess you are living in a society where virginity is so important and represents the honor of the whole family.

So if I were you I would be more than careful.

Don´t tell anybody and either fake to be a virgin, as if you did not have any clue what was going to happen.

I hope you are not from a strict Muslim family where they want to see the “blood spots” on the blanket as a proof for the virginity of the girl.

If this was the case you should better look for some gynecologic help. I mean there are always doctors who can reconstruct a girl’s hymen perfectly and nobody will ever note the difference.

I do know a lady friend from Morocco who did this before marriage and she was like “new” she said.

So everybody was happy: Her husband, her family, her in-laws… except she who said that it was like a theatre and that she would prefer to live in a society where women would not have to fake… but in the end it was the right decision.

It´s like this: If you tell your to-be husband, he might say that he “forgives” you. Although there is nothing to forgive, as you never cheated on him and what happened before your compromise is none of his business… BUT in your marriage he will start to nag on you and surely treat you bad in some way for this reason.

So, to protect yourself and your proper interests you should fake and if you can get the chance get the hymen repaired…

Sorry for you that you still have to live in such a hypocrite society full of machismo.

Answer 21

may be .it is depending on him