Will my mother in law help my insane husband?

Question

My husband left me, went insane and says he wants a divorce (but, won't file the stupid thing). He was living with his 19 yr old buddy at the buddys parents for a while, then to his sister in law's ex husband whom she has been divorced from for almost 2 years, then back to the 19 year olds for a week and some days. Now, his mother convinced him to live with her. He has to attend college, work, pay child support to me, and pay bills @ her house. She says she thinks she can help him with his insanity.

And that this will help our marriage get back together...

My therapist said "she couldn't raise him properly in the 18 years he lived with her, what makes her think she can do squat now". Which is true. We are sure its better than living with the losers he lived with.

Answer 1

The mother obviously is an enabler.  People in the current situation with the "insane" person can not help them.  They need to hit bottom and bring themselves back up.  Everyone has a different bottom.  I'd file the d**n divorce papers and move on to a happy healthy life.

Answer 2

It is better that he his living with his  mother. It seems as though that he doesnt know what he wants including settling down. Are you wanting the marriage to work? If so ur going to be on this roller coaster with him until he settles down. You would be better of concentrating on yourself and children). Your therapist is right. I mean really what does his mother think she is going to convince him of? That he is making a mistake? It doesnt seem he cares about anyone but himself. You r better off without him.

Answer 3

its better with parents just givehim time if he loves u he will come back he cant long with a mother