Will my son be bullied in his private school?

Question

Hey, im a single mother and my son ,13 has just got a scholarship at one of the top private schools in London. However im really worried he might be bullied. He's not the loudest of people and sometimes quite shy. Were not a rich family as im studying in college and i dont drive at all. I can pay for uniform , shoes etc but i dont want him to be picked on for not being rich. Should i take him out of the school ? and try to put him back in the state school he was going to? Help will be appreciated .

Answer 1

No, give him a chance to succeed first, it will make him stronger, instead of being wrapped up in cotton wool. Schools private or whatever have a responsibility to deal with bullying, so in the eventuality that he is contact the school and they will deal with it. As a mother you should teach your son that his self-worth is not dependent on the opinions of others. I am a form tutor and I teach my tutor group if someone is calling them names to say 'You're very immature and I think I'm better than this conversation'

Well done to your obviously very bright son

Answer 2

Hi, I think that your son has been given a great opportunity. I went to a private primary school, paid for by my Nana as we couldn't afford private schooling. I did find it difficult at times because I was picked on, both by my peers and the staff there.

However in saying that it was a great opportunity and I think that you should at least let your son try going there. You just need to be very supportive of him and remind him that he has just as much right as anyone to be at that school. He got in based on merit, not money; i think that is great.

Almost everyone will get picked on at least once when they are at school (i'm a youth worker in schools and see this all the time) but if this happens to your son you just need to ensure he has friends who are supporting him and that you are trying to build on his self-esteem.

Just let him try it, if he really doesn't like it and after he's been there for a little while you can always let him go to back to his state school (I went to state high school, i turned out fine).  

Answer 3

yes. by far he will be

Answer 4

Well, kids are bullied.  Unfortunately it's a fact of life.  

I went to private school NEARLY all my life.  I attened public school for 4 years.  I BEGGED my parents to let me go, because I wanted to feel "normal".  THAT is where I got bullied!  Those kids are classless, come from families that don't care AS MUCH about their actions...  When I went back to private school, things were fine again.  I do not come from a rich family either, far from it.  However, we were wearing uniforms, so you can't tell who's rich.  These days, kids are carrying cell phones, etc... but "not being allowed" to have one is MUCH different than "not being able to afford one".  So you see, there are ways to deal with kids asking questions about why your son doesn't have all the gadgets, ect.  

Children are sometimes shy, like your boy, but keeping him away from a better education because of it is insane.  Shy kids will either come out of their shell, or find other shy friends.  It doesn't matter what school he goes to, he'll find his place.  What DOES matter is the quality of education he recieves.  Don't cheat your son, and don't cottle him.  He needs to learn to associate with people of all types, because the world is full of kind people, bullies, smart people, stupid people, loud people and quiet people.  The best way to know how to handle everyone is to have a quick mind and a strong education.

Send him to private school. Children adapt MUCH better than parents THINK they can  :)

Answer 5

Bullying last's for a couple of years when he is making trillions ain't nobody going to be bulling  

Answer 6

Good grief no, leave him in a school that will make his future life the best.  If he has to suffer a little because you have less money, it will

make him stronger.  No school should tolerate bullying, and you should tell him that if he does ever get any bullying that he should tell you right away, and then you can speak to the authorities at school.  You must not try to protect him from life too much, that will just make him more shy.  Good luck, and don't even think about putting him a state school, when he has this opportunity.