Will nickname cause daughter trouble?

Question

my boyfriend and I had a baby 6 years ago and she was not planned. as a joke we nicknamed her Stake. as in short for mistake. the name Stake caught on and everybody calls her that. she is too young to know why. should I tell her before she finds out at school?

Answer 1

hi, i think honesty is always the higher road... just tell her; she can decide if she wants to tell anyone else. if she does, it could just be an easy chuckle-- no big deal.

and she's old enuf to understand that you love her even tho she was a 'stake.

Answer 2

Stop calling her that as soon as possible.  It doesn't mean anything special and on the contrary could be very hurtful to her. Plus I am sure you blessed her with a pretty name so why not have "everyone" call her by her name you have picked out for her.

Answer 3

I don't think anyone at school would catch on to that.  You can make up a different story for her nickname if she asks, at least until she is older.  I wouldn't tell her.  At least until she is old enough to understand that you love her very much and the fact that she was a mistake doesn't have anything to do with that.

Answer 4

First, you and your boyfriend should stop calling her that and tell everyone else to stop too, because it's a very rotten thing for you to be calling her in the first place. Maybe once everyone stops, you won't have to fess up. Or if you can't get rid of the nickname, I'd come up with some kind of lie as to why you call her that, because I don't think she really would want to know the truth.

Answer 5

CHANGE HER NICKNAME... someday some guy is gonna ask if you provide any a1 sauce so he can "eat" your daughter. That was horrible. I'm not trying to be perverted but guys will take this like a piece of meat not mistake. she's not too young to have a new nickname or heck why not go by her given name. I'm sure the given name isn't as bad.

Answer 6

Yeah and iwould stop calling her that, as once she figures it out she realize you didnt want her and that could have some bad reactions. Good luck.

Answer 7

Why would she find out at school? I doubt people are going to figure that out, especially if she's in a classroom with 6 and 7 year olds.

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Answer 8

I think that is kind of a cruel nickname..

Answer 9

That's awful. Seriously, you should be ashamed of yourself. Making a joke out of your daughter...

You need to tell her that now that she's going to school, she is going to go by her big girl name, which is whatever you named her. Do not tell your daughter you think (or thought) she is a mistake.

And "everyone" calls her Stake, which means that everyone is in on the joke. That's sad.

Answer 10

Stop calling her that! Yes it will cause her trouble. My instinct is to say not to tell her EVER! but at this point it may be unavoidable. Maybe you should explain to her what it means, but that you are so lucky to have her and would not change that for the world.

Answer 11

well is she every ask a quick cover up would be that u craved "stake" when u were pregnant!!!

Answer 12

Yikes. That is quite a horrible situation you put her in. It'd be much better for you to tell her, but I have a strong feeling that she will not want to be called that anymore (not exactly a term of endearment), and might put up a fit for quite a while until she knows that even though she wasn't planned, that you actually love her and don't think of her as a mistake.

Answer 13

I don't see why anyone at school would know why she was named stake.  Heck 47% of the kids now days are "stakes".

Answer 14

You should tell her that or get people to stop saying that because I am 15 and i you wait that long she might have a meltdown...i would

Answer 15

lol that was a bad nickname to pick but I understand how they come out of nowhere.  My youngest son is Boo and sometimes I call him Boo Boo and people often asked me if I call him that because I got pregnant with him and my now exhusband left me.  Of course that isnt the reason, the name came from nowhere really and everyone calls him Boo now but I am wondering when he will start questioning it.  Does your daughter ever ask you about why you call her that?

Answer 16

thats a mean thing to call her. some parent you are......