Will someone PLEASE help me out here?

Question

I am homeschooled and a freshman. I don't know what it's like to be in a "real" school. Can you tell me? I want to be socialized, but I've only gone to 3 parties. Help! I feel like an oddball.

Answer 1

define "real" school. What is preventing you from being socialized now? Do your parents just lock you up and prevent you from going outside????

You don't have any friends?

Answer 2

To be in public school?

I'm a freshman, too. I'm in a public school. We have our core classes [math, history, English, science] and we also have our electives. Depending on where you live, your public school might be different with the electives.

I have 7 classes and a 30 minute lunch period.

In my school, we only have time to actual socialize if the teacher gives the time to us... usually my classes are sitting in desks all class, working on our own and not actually getting the time to be ''social" Of course, lunch is a great time to be social, but you only have 30 minutes or so.

If you want to be social get involved in clubs or activities going on in your community. There are plenty of things to do, you just got to find them. Going to parties isn't the only thing.

Another suggestion, get involved in a home school support group or whatever they're called... its a great way to meet other home schooled children who are in a similar position that you are in.

Answer 3

Home schooling is great.  I Christian home schooled my two

boys for a year.  The downside is no socialization with other

peers your age.  I ended up sending them back to school the

following year.  Never really regreted it, I felt like the socialization was soo dramatically important.

You would probably enjoy school and making alot of friends.

I suppose this Mother would suggest to just try to socialize in the town you live in and try to make friends that way.  God Bless you.  Your Mother is homeschooling you for good reasons.  Schools, bus drivers, students are not all as safe as it use to be when my childern were young.  Stick with it, you will soon be Graduated and off to College hopefully.

Best of Luck.

Answer 4

You can be socialized without going to real school. Ask your parents if you can find more activities for you to do.

Answer 5

That's 3 parties more than I went to by the time I was your age.

However, I don't blame you, I would have hated to be home schooled.  When do you have the opportunity to learn to socialize?  Socialization is a major part of life.

On the other hand, I remember high school had so many "clicks".  Stuck-up kids that just worried about how cute they looked, Jocks that thought their career as a high school football star was all there was to life, teachers that don't relate to you as a person, just a think filling a desk seat, etc.

There is good and bad to being homeschooled, but I think kids should stop being home schooled at 9th grade and go to public school.

Have you tried talking to your parents?

Good luck

Answer 6

Tell your parents to stop punishing you and send you to a real school.  The education is better, your social skills will be better, and you will have a better life.

PLEASE don't let them ruin you by making you be home schooled!

Answer 7

Well, if you want to know what high school is like, maybe you should be asking on the high school board!

Answer 8

Honestly, the "social" things that you think you're missing out on aren't all that great...public school kids don't normally party every weekend or anything like that.  (Well, some do, but they're generally the ones who will end up on the news due to some frat hazing ritual...)

A "real" school involves your life being scheduled by bells, being told that school is not for socialization (you can do that on your own time, don'tcha know...), having to study according to lesson plans that are set according to the district curriculum rather than your needs or interests, and a social hierarchy that has absolutely nothing to do with the real world.

"Socialized" doesn't mean being able to cope with the pecking order that you'll find in public school...it means being able to deal with different situations out in actual society.  It means understanding social norms to the point of being able to hold a conversation with someone who's not like you, getting your job done in an efficient manner without an authority figure standing over your shoulder, and being able to be who you are rather than feeling like you have to be just like everyone else.  

There might be times when you feel like an oddball...but it's not because you're socially behind.  It's because you're not stuck in a system that will teach you that being who you are is wrong.  It's ok - where you are is fine.

Answer 9

You're NOT an oddball.  If your answer is an honest one,

Did you have no activities outside of your home, while growing up?  Do you have friends?  (homeschooled or not)  If you're going to a public school for the first time, your friends should be able to help you feel more comfortable.  Smile a lot.  That helps.  --  Those who are new to a school go through the same thing you do, and all their parents do was move.

Parties and social events are nothing.  Smile and act like you've been there before.

Really, good luck!  God bless you.

Answer 10

homeschooling is awesome!! i was homeschool for a while then went back to public school, i would have rather stayed in homeschooling but if you want to go back to school then who cares how many social events have gone to. high school has its pros and cons. good cause you make alot of friends, classes can be fun, dances, beign apart of a team or club, field trips!, boys, dating, and just finding who you are. The bad is dumb drama, homework, annoying teachers, the same routine everyday,  and dress code!

one good thing about beign homeschool that i wish i would have done was to finish high school earlier!

good luck!

Answer 11

it can't be experienced thru other people...and don't worry! lots of kids have been home-schooled and turned out just fine!!!

Answer 12

well it's fun because you get away from parents, siblings home life, more friends, talking to guys, enjoying classes, partying in class, dances, christmas gift exchange + more it is awsome

Answer 13

Do you play any sports? Maybe you could join an outside team like the YMCA. Are you religious? You could get in a youth group. You don't have to go to school to be social. You just have to come up with different ways to make friends. The only real difference is you see people at school everyday so its easier to get to know people.