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Okay my sister refuses to call my soon to be born son by his name. She calls him "the baby", and told me that the name I have choosen for him makes her sick and is disgusting. I am naming my son after my husband whom my sister is jealous of and has asked me to choose between him and her in the past. This really bothers me that she is disrespectful to my son and my husband and I, but if I say anything to her she will cause a huge family rift. She has a very volatile personality. Help!

Answer 1

i think anthony scott is a beautiful name. i think its common enough, but not too common. from my view, i think she is wrong. no matter what you name the baby, she should love it. its not her choice on what the baby's name should be. maybe you should stop talking to her until she calls the baby by his real name and stops being disrespectful to your son and husband. you should tell her " i am not going to let you be disrespectful to my son, husband or me. until you can tolerate everyone, i am not letting you be included in the baby's life or our family plans." (baby's birthday etc.)

this is something i might say if this happened.

Answer 2

I've never heard of someone being so hateful toward someone because they are jealous, as you say.  Are you sure nothing else happened between the two?  The name makes her sick and is disgusting because she is jealous of your husband?  Makes no sense to me whatsoever and I really think something else happened.  Maybe she knows something you don't know??

I assume your question is how to get your sister to call the baby by its name?  Well, while it's in your belly it's common for people to call it "the baby".  Wait until the baby is out and she if she changes her mind.

Answer 3

You need to stand up for your husband and your unborn son.  Tell her that if she can't use the  baby's name and be respectful of your family, then she simply won't be a part of it.  If you don't straighten her out now, she's going to treat your son the same way she treats your husband.  And really, it's not fair for your husband to have to put up with her abuse.

If it causes a rift, so be it.  It's better than letting the two most important people in your life be mistreated.

By the way, I think Anthony Scott is a lovely name.  Congratulations on your new son.

Answer 4

You sons name is beautiful! It sounds like your sister has some growing up to do.

We teach people how to treat us. If you allow this disrespect to continue she will not stop. It sounds like she is already creating a rift so you have nothing to lose by telling her that her continued disrespect will not be tolerated.

Good luck with your new baby!

Answer 5

This doesn't have anything to do with the name.   This is typical temper-tantrum bratty jealousy.  It also has very little to do with your husband.  It's not him she's jealous of, it's you.  Who says you have to say anything to her?  Ignore her.  It's not going to be forever.  Why surround yourself with stress at such a happy time?  She will eventually grow a personality and conscience, and will acknowledge her newphew.  

"When you can be happy for someone else, you can be happy."

Answer 6

Well first off that is not a bad name. I myself faced the same problem with my son. His father's name was a family name and he wanted to continue the tradition. I went with it and now my son's name is Leslie Paul.  My family hated my ex and a lot of them still dislike my sons name so they have chosen nicknames. My Grandma and my Mom call him Butch. My aunts call him LP. I sometimes call him Bubba. They are not allowed to make fun of the name at all or I will go off on them.

Secondly, Your sister needs to grow up. sever your ties until she can give your relationship the respect it deserves. I too have that problem. My sister and I have never really been close. I met my now husband 3 years ago. She moved in with me shortly after. Then she started talking bad about him alot. Then I find out they have been flirting and she was trying to get him to break up with me so they could be together. I confronted them both. She lied and tried to say that he forced her into situations. He told the truth complete truth. Neither was innocent but I forgave him because he told the truth. My sister still talks badly about BOTH of us, she is jealous, she still wants me husband and I have pusher her out of our lives as much as I can. Good luck but your problem won't be going away anytime soon. Sorry. Good luck though!!

Answer 7

your sister is being an idiot, she needs to get over herself. Who does she think she is helping by acting like a spoiled little brat. the name you have chosen is perfectly fine, and she will get over it. if a family rift comes of this, there was one coming anyway, you stand your ground and tell her to take a flying leap.

Answer 8

what are we supposed to say? if she hates your husband, she needs to get over it or she won't be a part of the baby's life. simple as that.  

Answer 9

that is a good name! As for your sister...you need to tell her to stay away from  you if she can not keep her cool. she will eventually see what she has done wrong and she will start coming back around. you are her family and family is all you got in this world. she will get over her stupidity it is just going to take time. good luck

Answer 10

oh my god what a brat of a sister , does your sister not love the bones of her new little nephew. you should tell her it upsets you and is bad for the baby for her not to call him by his name as he wont understand what he should answer to. tell her get a life if shes upsetting you that much.. have you spoking to the other family members and see what they think. maybe the baby mite fix the problem with your husband and sister

Answer 11

Your sister is being really horrible and unfair. maybe you can get your mum to talk to her for you or something?

I think the name is beautiful.

Answer 12

I guess my first question is, has anyone else in your family heard her make these sorts of remarks? If so, I hardly see where such a "huge family rift" would occur.

You don't allude to other problems or reasons why your sister might be acting as she does, nor do you give your age or her age. Based on what you've given, I would say you will need to make a choice for yourself. Unless there is some underlying issue for your family to be upset and take sides, let your sister throw her tantrum.

I hope things work out. Situations like this are always tough. Hang in there!

Answer 13

Well, you need to make it clear to her that this is your son, and as such, you are in fact permitted to name him whatever you'd like.  If she would like to select a child's name, she can feel free to have one of her very own.

It seems to me that your sister is just a touch (perhaps more?) unbalanced.  Particularly if she's going to let something like this get to her so much that she flips out, creating problems.  It's not as if the name you've chosen is one of the stupid trendy ones people love to use nowadays.  Better still, it's not one of those goofy misspellings of a normal name, just so the kid can "be different".  Anthony Scott is a fine name, and if you & your husband want to name your son that, it's your choice, not hers.

Is your sister married?  Does she not understand that when a man & a woman marry, part of the deal is placing that person before all others?  You may need to take a stand here.  Not fun, but that may be what it takes to get your sister to wake up.

Answer 14

Like most people have said its yours and your husbands choice on the name of your baby. Maybe your sister is feeling neglected some how now that your with your husband and you have a baby coming. Maybe she feels you will be to busy for her. Maybe plan to do things with her with and without the baby. Show her you want to keep your relationship good. Overall I think once she meets the baby she will fall in love with it as I'm sure you will. After all who can't get all mushy when they are holding a beautiful newborn.

Answer 15

Try keeping the baby away from her, if not the baby will think its name is the baby. That wouldnt look good in a Birth Certificate.

Answer 16

That is a beautiful name that you have chosen and your sister is being a cow for the way she is behaving. If my sister tried to pull something like this I would probably not speak to her until she came to her senses. She is being very ride and childish about the whole thing and doesn't deserve to be a part of your family's life.