Will someone please explain to me why some women aren't happy unless they are unhappy?

Question

So, a woman says that she wants a man to be a good husband and father, who is confident, healthy, intelligent, independent, good-looking, a gentleman but still a bad boy, and a good cook who also cleans the house.

After he does all those things, then she whines because she doesn't have anything to whine about.

Please explain this to me.

Answer 1

Some women, like some men, could use some serious counseling.  Some married the wrong people.  Some suffer depression.  Some have unrealistic expectations.  Some have other issues.  Go to couples counseling.  If that doesn't work, you might be stuck in a bad marriage.

Answer 2

I dont have an answer but would like to know them as well. I will keep an eye out

Answer 3

She might not have things in perspective and may be forgetting to appreciate things properly. Try to talk to her about it and help her see how important it is that you are trying and participating in the relationship. Try to point out the things you have been doing in order to make an effort. If she still can't see it I think that couples counseling might be a good idea. If you really are doing everything and her nothing and she doesn't learn to appreciate it then you guys might not be right for each other. But I think you can give her time she might just be going through something. That's why I think communicating all this with her and how it is making you feel is important.  

Answer 4

This is kinda silly I think.  But there are alot of people like this not just women.  Women are totally different and need to feel needed and appreciated and like they matter.  Personally being a single mom for the past 5 years has taught me so much about myself.  I can do almost anything if I am willing to ask and let others help me as needed.  I can't be afraid to ask for help even if I think it makes me look needy.  In order for a relationship to work well 2 people have to contribute to it and that means work wise also.  Its not fair that just one of you is working outside and home and doing the chores at home as well.  It takes two.  I think shes not sure of what she wants or maybe like others I have dealt with she isn't happy and nobody is gonna get to be happy either.  If you are the guy and working outside the home and then coming home to do it all you should quit and let her pick up the slack.  You can't be everybody all the time.  You deserve a break as well.  You can still be all those things without getting taken advantage of.  I know I've been there and done that for 14 years.  Good luck sweetie.

Answer 5

It's not only women who do this, there are men out there who do it too.  It probably means that she isn't sure what she wants, and is just looking for - in her mind - the perfect man.  If she's your current or ex, then maybe something needs to change.  More than likely with both of you.  Couples counseling or self-help books would be the way to go.