Will the working mother vs sahm battle ever end and what is the point of it?

Question

Jane: believe me, there are plenty of women battling out the issue of what is better.

Answer 1

What battle?

They can either stay at home, or go to work.  It's their choice.

Both choices involve caring for your family. So who cares?

Edit: It doesn't matter which is better. Everyone has their own opinions. What does matter is that women have the choice to decide which they want to do.

Answer 2

I certainly support a families right to make that decision for themselves.

The only battle I hear about is working mothers being told that because they worked they did not love their children.    

Answer 3

Guilt or uncertainty over their individual choices turning into defensiveness ...on both sides.

Working Moms fret they might be short-changing both their children and their jobs.

Stay at home mothers wonder if they aren't heaping too heavy a burden on their partners and wonder what will happen if their relationships break up and they are minus a spouse and in possession of either no job skills or outdated ones, or they are feeling guilty for feeling bored by 24/7 domestic activity.

Answer 4

From the point of view of a stay at home wife, I would always contest the notion that staying at home is a waste of time, and that my children would be better off in daycare.  I would also contest the viewpoint that paid employment is the only worthwhile way to spend your time.

However, I don't much care what other women do, or what they think of what I do.  There are few people for whose opinions I care very much, and none of them are feminists.  I just enjoy arguing about things.

Answer 5

The only point of the battle is for one side to look superior to the other in a lame attempt to make its choice seem more viable.

Answer 6

There IS NO battle.   It is a myth.  Feminism is about Choices and the freedom to make those choices.  SAHM are women too... and deserve equality in every area of politics and society.

I repeat... there IS no battle.

Answer 7

i think the majority of people support a woman's right to choose whether to work or stay at home.

it's only a few radicals on both sides still fighting.