Will things change for me?

Question

Hey im a 15 year old girl. I just wish I would feel more special because I never get attention from guys. I have a huge heart, im pretty and i have a great personality. Im not too popular or anything. When I grow up will things change?

If any of you have stories like this; going from someone who is made fun of or w/e to someone who is admired and wanted by many people? I dont know how to explain i hope u know what i mean. Sort of like the ugly duckling story...

Answer 1

Well, you'll look different in 5 or 10 years so you could blossom out.  Getting attention from boys is only part of your life ahead.  Be true to yourself and please only yourself.  You don't need to be wildly popular to be happy.  Do you have idea what career you might follow?  Once you start working and being independent then your life will change.  You'll meet different and exciting people.

Answer 2

I didn't get a lot of attention from guys throughout most of high school. Then I got my braces removed and things started to change. But by that point, I was so busy thinking about university and my career that I barely even noticed.

If attention from guys is the only thing that makes you feel special, you really need to take a good, long look at the kind of person you are.

Answer 3

When I was in the 7th and 8th grade I was not popular at all and I got no attention from the guys. I was and still am pretty, a good dresser, nice, and have a good personalty. I was called ninja turtle. I cried only the first couple of times I heard them say or sing the song of ninja turtles. But I didn't care anymore because I knew I had it going on when I looked in the mirror. The fast and easy girls get all the attention.  those girls as adults now have a horrible life and some were looking horrible now. Things changed once I got to high school. Don't worry too much about it.Your time will come.

Answer 4

Guys don't tend to go after girls who they sense want attention. They tend to go after the girls who ignore them and don't really care. I know that sounds like the opposite of the way it should work, but it's true. As soon as you stop caring about attracting boys, they will probably start to notice you.

There are many "late bloomers" who don't even date until their college years or even their early twenties, but they tend to be more successful daters because they have had time to think about what kinds of guys they would or wouldn't go out with.

You are aware of some good qualities that you have as a person, and that's great. You don't have to be desperate -- you have the luxury of picking and choosing which boys are worthy of dating your beautiful, precious self, and anybody who asks you out should feel that it's a PRIVILEGE if you say yes. Good luck!

Answer 5

Yes!  Many of the people who are popular now will be unpopular in College, or after HS.  You are still growing.  I had one boyfriend all through HS, and didn't grow until I was 16 years old.  Once I went to College, I became popular and was elected cheerleader.  I got to date all the guys I wanted to date.  It was great.  Hang in there!  

Answer 6

though i'm considered cute-look, but i can never feel beautiful when in front of people, unlike when i'm alone in front of the mirror. out of feeling down and easily overtaken by them. i was a coward, loser, bullied, i don't have many friends, and i had always being made fun by people, especially that i when i have looks, those girls seemed to enjoyed bullying me more (jealousy, i can tell). i always felt like guys don't notice me while they might just had but i never feel that way, as it's my stupidity they prefer to tease at... that's where even average-looking girls get to beat my looks, they got more attention. then i tried to be more stylish in my dressings at my highshool times---but still, it didn't work that well after a while.

but now, even that my dressings are getting simpler, looser, more conservative look and not stylish, which supposedly makes me feel less special and uglier as less guys are willing to look at me, it didn't go that way! instead, i could easily feel more beautiful (not faking it) in the public, and more people are in fact, fancy and admire me.

the best thing about this is when you know you don't need guys' approval to make you feel beautiful. you don't need a big numbers of them to stare at you, it's actually enough for you to approve it yourself (and it takes time to build the power of approval either). that's where people themselves will start to realize for real that you're worthy and special, not just for your looks sake (many guys would look at you as some kind of flowers/s*x objects in fact), but your own self. you don't have to to be submissive to the guys out there (who actually give you nothing) through the beauty, it's yours. be a lucky owner to the precious masterpiece, don't be a slave to it.  

anyone can always be cute ugly duckling even without being a beautiful swan. cinderella is pretty but helpless and that's not coz she's poor, but lack of confidence. it's about growing up...and fairy tales are shallow.

where does it comes from: just work on the inside, and it's enough to dress neatly on the outside ( and don't smell bad). because the real power of self-value is actually on the beholder. not people.