Will this Long Distance Relationship work????? Please help!?

Question

My boyfriend and I have known each other for years! We've been the best of friends since high school and this past year he confessed he was in love with me! We've been dating a while now, but its time to go back to college. He is in south carolina and I'm in Tennessee. We've talked about our future, possibly getting married and definitely staying together while we are away at school despite the distance and how very often we will see one another. I thought I was ready, but last week when he left I felt like dieing. Our amazing relationship has turned into a few texts a day and if I'm lucky.. a 5 min phone call at night. This is ridiculous. While we both have class, I have a job and he doesn't. While he is out partying and drinking I'm busting my *** waiting tables. We both have our friends and I trust him!! It isn't about trust at all - its just about the obvious. Yes I'm so in love with him and yes I can see myself marrying him in the next year or two after college, but if our relationship is going to continue to be a text here or there, a call you when I have time.. I'm just not going to be willing anymore. They say if you love someone you do anything, but why put such a heart ache on yourself? Mentally I thought I was ready for this but my heart is hurting. HELP!!

Answer 1

girl i see where yur goin girl your heart aint meant to be broken, i mean it is meant to be broken but also revived.....girl love has issues...dont put so much on yourself....your kind of long distance girl is like waiting for prince from fairytale land...take it to the heart and if you had someone like him you can get anyone.......who cares wat anyone says, love comes from the heart and everyone...every single freakin person has a heart so they know what love should do.....just make yourself happy.

Answer 2

You need to tell him he needs to step it up or else he is going to loose you. Guys are freaking clueless sometimes. Long Distance relationships are really hard. I did it with my "first love" and it killed me because he didn't care about me as much as I did him. Just talk to him. It's all about communication.

Answer 3

well if hes gna go out partying and all nd just text you a few times a day along with a 5 minute phone call..we already kno whats happening.. hes got another girl on the side. OBVIOUSLY.  

Answer 4

You have to tell him how you feel.  The two of you need to communicate on a regular basis -- via email, the telephone, and text messages, if you are going to keep the flame of love alive.

If he is unable to see your point-of-view, you may have to reconsider whether this is the man you want to spend your life with.  Love isn't a compromise as far as the big issues go.  If his idea of intimacy is that different from yours, this relationship won't be able to sustain itself.

What we say in anger doesn't count, so it might be wise if you took a few days to think about what you want to say, and then write him a letter telling him in kind, but truthful words how the fact that he has so little time for you is hurting you.  If he discounts what you say, or continues to act in a way that is unacceptable to you, than you will have to choose whether you would be better off with him or without him.

Good luck!

Cindi Sansone-Braff, author of "Grant Me a Higher Love: How to Go from the Relationship from h**l to One that's Heaven Sent by Scaling The Ladder of Love."