Will u give good advice?....i dont want appeased..i want help?

Question

o.k. my life is ruined..completely ruined..i dont have anything anymore..home, car, job,, long story on how it happened...i have this friend who i never looked to as a lover...lately i have seen him in a different light but he doesnt know how much trouble im in..he knew me when i owned my own business and had my self together..now i see him with another woman and i dont know if he is seeing her that way..she has her stuff together..i know she would be better for him...He deserves a good woman..im not just saying that..and we have only been friends for 8 years and never been together...i dont know how to fall asleep at night or function cuz i been thinking of a man i cant have and has no idea i think of him..tell me how to get him off my mind before i waste a friendship...im in big trouble yes?

Answer 1

Get him out of your head by focusing on the things that are important.  Even if he knew how you feel and shares your feelings what do you have to offer at his point? Great losses shatter our egos, it is in your own best interest to see your self as valuable and "together" before entering into a new relationship.  

Answer 2

sorry to hear you lost everything.... however, that does not mean you can not get them back. The time thatyou spend working and earning everything back should be enough to shift your focuse from him. Try not to think of him and concentrate on fixing your life first. Good luck and remember life is always ups and downs, its not always great and smooth. This is a small bump for you and you will pass it, it will be hard work but you had it once and you can do it again to get there. You just gotta want it.....

well, have you talked to him about how you feel? Do you think he might be interested in you in that way? Maybe it will work out b/w you two? Unless he is seeing someone else and is already in a relationship.

All i know is that toget someone from your head you have to really want it, and go out have fun. Do not be alone or sit at home and think about him. Be with friends, go out, have fun and be open to possibilities. You will meet someone and will be very happy. I know its very hard now, but trust me it will get better. If the guy is wilth another woman youhave to keep saying that to yourself that he is not single and he is not for you. do not see him for a while until you are all okay with being around him again. It helps a lot if you start dating, i say this because i've been there. Good luck hun....

Answer 3

I say go for it.  If it's causing you this much pain, you need to know or you'll always regret it.  And if you're that good of friends, you will remain that way because you're friendship is strong......Let me know how it goes.  Haven't chatted in a while.  GJ :)