Will we ever get back together? Im the one that ended it.?

Question

I love him, but I don't think I am in love with him. We have been together for a year in a half and my gut has been telling me for a while to end it. The thought of losing him makes me sick because he is so good to me. We had a lot of issues and I no we needed to mature. I am 22 and he is 20. Is there potential for us to work out in the future? If I wasn't in love with him now, will I ever be? I want to be so badly. We cut off all communications and it's only been a day. I feel so empty and lost. He is devistated. Advice?

Answer 1

Get in touch of how you really feel about him? Is it just that your bored and have nothing to do? Or is it that your just lonely? Or is it because you love him and miss him. We often confuse love for boredom or loneliness. You really need to get honest with yourself how you really feel about this guy. Because you started off by saying that you love him, but your NOT in love with him. Maybe your just feeling bad for him. But that's not love. I would give myself some more time then a day and really think about this. I think your just feeling bad. But I could be wrong. And if it's just you feel bad, that not fair to him if you decide to get back with him. Let him go to be able to find someone who's capable of really loving him. Good luck, but give yourself some more time to think howe you really feel. When we decide to GET HONEST with ourselves, usually the answers come easy.

Answer 2

You have to first ask yourself some questions Do I really want to end it? What has warranted me to feel this way? Has he given me reason to fall out of love? Or is it just me? I mean if you love him like that to end it would be crazy especially if he's given you no real reason to.

Answer 3

love is a choice.

life is what you make it.

grow up man, you not a kid anymore.

If you decided to end it , then get over it.

stop playing with his emotions.

Answer 4

You need to read my article on Maintaining Relationships. http://thisisby.us/index.php/content/mai... your Feedback, comment or vote if you like it. It will also help you see relationships from a clearer perspective...Best of Luck! I felt the same yesterday after fighting with my husband. It was rude and i Apologized immediately. We're ok now and its as if nothing happened all together but i have to make sure I do not repeat it.

Answer 5

no matter wat you do, be fair enough to communicate effectively and be mindful of the fact that he has feelings.

Answer 6

Move on...your feelings are normal, but time will solve this.  Break all contact and it will be easier in the long run.

Answer 7

If you truly love him, then his happiness should be all that matters.  If you don't think you are capable of providing the happiness that you think he deserves, then let him go.  Change is inevitable.  It is a person's, or couple's, ability to adapt to that change that truly defines their character.

Answer 8

A relationship should be something that thrives not just survives......and if you can say that you thrive in that relationship than I would say to try but if you can't say that than you need to let it go.  Change is always scary and a lot of people hold on to things just because they are too afraid to try something else in their life.  You have to ask yourself if this is what you want in your life and why do you want it?  If you just want this because you are afraid to be alone, that is not the answer.

Answer 9

If you loved him like you should in a relationship, you wouldn't be here asking this question. MOVE ON. Let him have someone who loves him!