Will we ever get back together?

Question

Ok so i was with my partner for 9 months and things were going great, one or two arguments but nothing to serious. He has now left me saying he no longer loves me. I am torn up. I was just wondering if anyone knew if i had a chance to get back with him? I have tried speaking to him but unable to get a response from him.

I can eat, sleep or anything as I am totally torn up inside. Please someone help me xx

Answer 1

seeme as though it is really over - sorry

Answer 2

I can understand how you feel but also try to understand him.

He just didnt feel tht IT for u, and you have to accept it.

It hurts we all hav been through it but u cant try to get some1 back who doesnt want u (obviously since he broke up wit u).

U need to move on, the best way is c sme1 else, party wit friends try to remember how it felt like singel.

And turn the feelins of missin him into the anger of him dumping u, it wil get u over him in notime.

I do it and I've gotten over some rlly intense and long relationships in my life. Once u become angry u become mroe or less urself, and u start competin wit urself to look as gud as u can and b as gud s u can.

Answer 3

Hi,

In 9 months most relationships are still in a little honeymoon stage!

I think sadly it is safe to say this relationship may well be over.

He obviously has told you he does not love you. What he has said is almost like a closure.

Knowing he no longer loves you, means it will be harder for the two of you to get back together.

Leaving you and no answering his calls suggests that he doesn't want to speak to you. He has moved on and he is trying to get you to the same.

I know it hurts as all break ups are but you need to accept that he has gone.

The more you try and pressure him into speaking to you the more he will feel he made right choice.

Get together with the girls, take up new hobby, anything to take mind of this guy.

In time when you feel stronger you will meet someone else and have a great relationship with them.

But let this guy go, he doesn't want a relationship with you babe.

Lx

Answer 4

move on and forget about him if he can't be bothered to answer you

when you are speaking to him why bother obviously he has other reasons probably too but too much of an *** to say them to you

9 months is nothing move on with your life and stop wasting time that you could be happily looking out for the proper man for you

Answer 5

I don't know if you will get back together, but for now the answer is no, and you should live your life as though it's not going to happen.  Get out with friends, get some support, and make loving yourself a priority.  Things will sort out in time, but when someone tells you they don't love you, it's over and you should take them at their word.

Answer 6

Sounded like he just wanted to get at you. then again maybe something in his life has went down hill. if he doesnt anwser your calls something is up talk to his friends and see what they know talk to his parents if avaliable maybe he just needs to cool off a little let him have some space a little bit wait for about a week then call him if he does not respond then maybe its time u found someone who wont turn their backs on you. just leave him be for a little while

Answer 7

if you are this torn up over it, you may need some counseling. if you can't afford it, try church.  my response to your question is that yes, there is a chance he will miss you now that you are separated, but you must leave him alone so he can miss you.  if he doesn't, there may already be someone else in his life and he just was letting you down easy, so you need to try to overcome this either way - be strong and move on even though it is painful.  good luck.

Answer 8

Give him time.

If he discovers he really loves and misses you he should contact you if not don't bother cos he was the one who said he no longer loved you.

If you spend time together in the future as friends you could fall deeply in love again.

Answer 9

Listen, all you can give him is time. You coming after him, chasing him is only chasing him away more. He has to come to terms with his feelings and his life and figure out what's best for him, not what's best for you. What you need to do is to focus on your own life now because that's just what he's doing. I'm sure he's not losing sleep or skipping meals because he's turned the focus back on what he feels he has to do for himself to be happy, so you need to turn the focus on that. Do what will make you happy again, focus on building your own life. Get a hobby, go exercise, join back up with friends and just live your life for yourself right now because you need to do what's best for you, just as he's doing that for himself.

Good luck.

Answer 10

I was with my ex for 6 months and he said he didn't love me anymore too and he moved out of the house. I didn't call him or text him and he did come over to the house 3 days later. I shut the door in his face as i knew he just wanted to tell me the same thing. That was 9 months ago and i still miss him etc

When a man says he does not love you anymore he means it mate.

You have to cry, watch sad movies to cry more (it is good therapy), read books about heartbreak and realise that it is over and one with in his mind and there is nothing you can do to get him back. If he does love you he will come back, but pride, self respect and dignity should stop you going after him.

Move on and try to forget him as i have done.

Answer 11

time...give it time and you will feel better.  Don't hold onto someone- it sounds cliche, but true- "if you love something set it free...if it comes back to you it is yours, if it doesn't, it never was"

Answer 12

he's a man and has cut of contact with you to think give him a few weeks and then contact him to see if he will speak to you if not then you were not ment to be

Answer 13

Let him go !

If any man told me he didn't love me anymore I certainly would have more pride than to whinge about losing him.

He is not worth it, you should not show him how much this has affected you it will boost his ego and deflate yours.

The only way to get on with life is to make sure you succeed without him, show that you are an independant woman and that him saying this to you has allowed you to progress.

Have some pride and be a strong woman, if he sees you coping amazingly without him he will wonder why, then if you want him back you are in a better position to be calling the shots.

Be capable and stop whining, men are a pain anyway and if it were true love you would still be together.

Whilst you are wasting time thinking about him you are denying another mans love, one that is true and waiting for you.

Go find him.

Girlpower !!!!!

Answer 14

Are you nuts? He doesn't want to be with you...

you were only with him for 9 months and you are torn up over this??? ISSUES