Will women get accustomed to marry down educationally and do you think men will accept this in future ?

Question

No doubt: girls and women are scoring much better in nearly all fields of education. And it seems this educational gap is even increasing. Which makes it inevitable that a majority of women will have to marry down educationally in future, and more and more men will have to arrange themselves with this new situation. Or do you think that an increasing number of men and women will remain singles in future, being uncomfortable with the changing balance of power ?

Answer 1

Ok.. let me enlighten you about a few things you seem oblivious to.

1. Having a college degree does not make you "educated". Some girls just party and have their boyfriends do their homework for them. I WENT TO COLLEGE so I know how it is.

2. NOT having a degree does not make you UNeducated. You can READ and learn on your own.

3. Education and "intelligence" are not the same thing.

4. While women are graduating from college more, they are still not getting most of the high position jobs. MEN still run the world. Also, most business owners are MEN.

5. Men don't care about a woman's education. Women are the ones that are so hung up on competing with men. Men are not and NEVER HAVE been, in competition with women.

Mike T has spoken.

Answer 2

Most girls marry for love and that comes in all shapes and sizes. In my experiance the problem is not the amount of education you have but the other areas of common ground.

Having been with a partner who had no formal qualifications when I did I can say that it was not a consideration. We split up after 20 years and the only way the education factor impacted was he refused to show any interest in things I was interested in but complained we didn't talk and he was jealous of my attempts to try to further my education through further study.

My new partner again has not got as many qualifications as I have from school but has various technical/vocational qualifications gained since then. They have a wide interest in the world and we talk about anything and everything. We learn from each other.

I haven't worked fulltime for long because of the children where both my partners have had posts where they have had staff under them, one was forced to stay at home and hated it and the other wishes they could.

I think the key here is to have a connection and a bond and to keep your mind active so that the relationship doesn't become stale.

Answer 3

Well speaking on behalf of uneducated men, explain to me what marrying down is.  Do u honestly believe that's what men thought of women the last half century, for wanting a women to stay home and taking care of the family. What change of power are you talking about. I don't care how many degrees you get, how much money you make. You CAN never change to balance of power. I hope it doesn't take you an eternity to realize this.

Answer 4

My husband and I both have our bachelors, I am planing on getting my masters, he has no intention to do so.  It doesn't bother either of us.

I don't think many people look at a person or marry a person for their education.  As long as the person is in a stable job and/or goal oriented I am not sure why it would be an issue unless one is making one of it or thinking of excuses not to be in the relationship.

25% of married women already make more than their husbands, I haven't heard any be who-rah yet.

Answer 5

I think if they treat each other as an equal and work together for a common good they both will do great. I know that men have been raised to be the bread winner but times have changed and with these dumb asses in Washington ,it takes both working just to get gas these days....

Answer 6

You just brought up one of the single most biggest hinderance and problems of feminism, womens reluctance to truly switch roles at home.

The real question is if women are going to marry down ECONOMICALLY and statuswise. Time will show, eithier achieving women will breed themselfs out of the genepool lamenting no good men are around and feminism will be undone by nature, or they will adapt.

I have my doubts though, even in ancient times you had to be a julius caesar to score ca cleopatra.

We shall see, but I think the feminist couple where 2 people high in status and earning will lead a happy marriage will be rather seldome.

Answer 7

i didn't know women married down educationally.  u must be smarter than your husband and fell bad about it or something.  love is love.  learn that

Answer 8

lol i doubt it , reason i say that is because they wont be concerned with it to that extent that they will just have to be along because men are not as educated as them.

Answer 9

As long as there are people using terms like "marry down" there will be people ashamed to do it and unable to come to grips with it.  Therefore I believe that rather than face all the ridicule and do all the emotional work necessary to deal with an issue like that one there will be a lot more single people in the years ahead.

Answer 10

I have a Bachelor's degree. My husband didn't go to college and  writes Web applications. I make more money than him. He doesn't care...it's not a big deal.

Maybe we're unusual in that respect, but I have a feeling that increasingly, no one will care.

Answer 11

I'm not a snob, nor do I judge other people based on their life choices. However, I just don't think I could ever get serious with a man who I can't relate to intellectually. Education,  knowledge, and critical thinking are very important to me and my family. I think it would always be a source of resentment for both of us. Unfortunately, I'm barely an adult and guys my age pretty much refuse to show their mental capabilities, and I go to one of the best universities in the country. Maybe in grad school things will be different.

Earning ability is not a big deal to me at all, though.

Edit: Mike: I am very curious as to what college you attended and when where apparently women in college are partying and having guys do their homework for them. Actually, in my experience, women make some of the best students. For example, at every single University of California campus, (Berkeley, UCLA...etc) women's average GPA is higher than men's. I don't know about other universities, but I would assume it's not much different.

Also, it's not about competing with men. It's about achieving to the best of your ability.

Answer 12

The gene pool will always be a bell curve. Most people will fit somewhere in the middle. I think there will always be someone out there to match your expectations regardless of gender.

Answer 13

Back in the "bad old days", a man who became a (say) professor (or an executive or of that level) would most likely be from a upper middle class or upper class background (usually, but not always). Most likely he would marry his secretary, who would most likely be a woman from a lower-class background (though not always). This was also true of those in business and government hierarchies. This proved beyond reasonable doubt that men were very comfortable choosing a partner from a vastly different level both educationally and on an income basis.

This also meant the "classes" were moderately well mixed, with upper-middle class men and upper class men marrying lower class women, who were both less well educated and of a lesser income stream.

THIS DOES NOT HAPPEN, where the *female* makes it to near the top, nowadays.

Since Feminism, women have NOT imitated this idea, where they always still try to "marry up" to more money, or more Social influence of so forth. Can anyone remember the last time a top woman executive married (say) a garbage collector, or a process worker, or a police officer or a train driver or a bus driver or a truckie or a labourer or a brick layer or a parking station attendant or some such..?

I cannot remember any such, either.

I also cannot remember the last time a woman executive married an unemployed man.

"Don't be SILLY!" say the Feminists. Yet it was they who pointed out how - if women were in paid employment - we would see an increasing number of marriages for "love". For love of money, more like it.

It is the "unromantic" men who still marry people from other-than-their-own-background, from "other than their own" level of education, from "other than their own" level of salary. But the Feminist "all about equality" lot will only consider dating (let alone marrying) when there's a chance of increasing the woman's income.

Is what "equality" really means? That a feminist-inspired female will only consider a potential partner based purely upon their level of income? So, if that other person does not make "as much" (or nearly as much) then they are not to be considered as a potential partner? Unless the man earns "equally" (or better), that the woman is a bit too good for the man?

I'm beginning to think that's EXACTLY what "equality" means when a Feminist says it: equality of income, or no chance of romance!