Will you/did you dress your bridesmades in pretty dresses, or purposely in ugly dresses?

Question

Just wondering if people still purposely make their bridesmaids dresses ugly to make themselves look better...

Answer 1

Of course I wanted them to all look pretty! They chose the dresses, and they were totally beautiful, summery and happy colours.

Answer 2

I chose dresses that were obviously something I wanted. They weren't ugly and they didn't look all that much like bridesmaids dresses. My girls loved them and the shoes that I also picked out :)

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Answer 3

Im sure some overly self conscious brides out there still pull stunts like that to try and feel a little better on their wedding day.

Truth be told, it doesnt matter what the girls wear.  No one ever stands our more or looks more beautiful than a bride on her wedding day.  It just doesnt happen.  

Its safe to dress the bridesmaids in dresses that you truly think are pretty.  

Answer 4

People don't purposely make their bridesmaid wear ugly dresses, they just have bad taste.  

Answer 5

That is the stupidest thing that people have ever done in weddings. Making your bridesmaids look ugly may make YOU look better, but it makes your entire wedding look ugly. So every time you look at your wedding pictures, you get to see what an ugly wedding it was and what a shallow fool you were. It's like smearing c**p on your face to make your hair look better.  

Answer 6

I've never known anyone to purposely dress their bridesmaids in ugly dresses. I'd like to think my bridesmaids dresses were pretty! They got to decide which dress they liked.

Answer 7

No way! i would want my bridesmaids to look great aswell, because to be honest, people will judge you on the choice of dress!!! everyone should look great on your weddign day :D

Answer 8

Pretty dresses and I tried to go with something they may actually be able to wear again, they are so expensive to wear just once and funny enough 2 of my girls wore there dress to a new years eve party the following year.

Answer 9

Nah if i was getting married i would make the bridesmaid pretty BUT make sure my dress was BEAUTIFUL... so id still look the best lol. but also i wouldnt make the bridesmaid dresses very  showy, i mean very simple but elegant and pretty, but not overdoing it. I mean if you make your bridesmaids super ugly, the wedding wont be very nice will it?

Answer 10

pretty-I never undersatnd why people would want there bridemaid or any guest for that matter to be ugly

sure as trhe bride you want to look the most gorgeouse & stand out but over all you aslso want a nice wedding & wedding pics & so 10 years for now do you really want to see your brides maid dressed in a dress that looks like puke!?!?!

Answer 11

Using ugly dresses would make the wedding pictures look terrible. In our area there never is an ugly bridesmaid. I would say only a selfish spoiled bride  would do that.

Answer 12

I made my bridesmaid where a dress that was both pretty and flattering, also I saw it as a waste of money so I made sure it was something that could be worn again to a formal/ semi-formal event.

Answer 13

I loved my bridesmaids dresses. I don't know why people dress them ugly. The attention is going to be on you no matter what. You are the one in the big white expensive dress getting all the attention. Besides you are going to have to look at those ugly dresses in your pictures for the rest of your life. And.....if someone is pretty, they are going to look pretty no matter what they are wearing!

Answer 14

I chose dresses that didn't look so prom like. My mother in law made all the bridesmaid's dresses and they were very cute. My wedding was in March so they were short and had spaghetti straps. Unfortunately, after 75 days without rain, it decided to rain on my wedding day. My poor girls were freezing (so was I, but I had more dress). My mother in law was a bit late to the wedding because she was making us all shawls. I would never have put my girls in an ugly dress, that is just mean. I don't think the bridesmaids ever look better than a blushing bride on her wedding day!

Answer 15

thats really mean to make them wear ugly dresses. if i was the bride, id make them wear something they feel comfortable in.

Answer 16

My maids are wearing pretty dresses. I want them to look good and feel good in what they are wearing. Unless they show up in a wedding gown, they won't be able to upstage the bride. I think the days of purposely ugly dresses are over.

Answer 17

yes i will dress my bride-maids with beautiful dresses..but it is very difficult because all i see are ugly dresses..i wouldn't dress my bride-maids ugly because it will mess up my pictures and it would actually look tacky

Answer 18

i wouldnt pick somthing ugly or pretty most likeley just plain .  j crew has a lot of plain yet pretty bridesmaid dressess.  

Answer 19

I think people who purposely make their bridesmaids, who are supposedly their best friends, look hideous in order to ensure they'll be the "star" of their own wedding are loathsome, insecure b****es in serious need of therapy.  I can't imagine purposely picking out the most unflattering dresses I can find just to make sure none of my friends outshine me.  I have beautiful friends with various body types, skin tones, and heights, and for that reason I have chosen to forego the whole matching bridesmaid dress thing altogether, and have just asked them to wear a dress they feel beautiful in.  I never understood why they all had to match anyway- they're individuals, not Rockettes, and I want their beauty and personality to shine through just as much as my own that day.  They're all super-stoked that they don't have to shell out a lot of money too- to me, being a bridesmaid is less about what you wear and more about standing up and supporting your friend on a big day in her life.

Answer 20

nope i tried to have decent looking dresses that my girls looked good in for my wedding... I am not mean enough to put my friends in ugly dresses on purpose... :/

Answer 21

If they were ugly the bridesmaids wouldn't wear them again. Morally I couldn't do that, that would be the same as me buying a bunch of dresses I knew I wasn't going to wear. It's bad enough that I might have a hard time re-purposing my dress, but that's only 1.  

Answer 22

i wouldnt

think about it if u are lookin at your wedding pictures one day u want everyone to look nice and beautiful but if u dress them lookin ugly they wont look happy in the pictures and if u decided to frame one then the pictures would look ugly if the dresses were ugly

and what if u had company over when u framed one? u dont want ur company to think u have a bad taste in clothes or dresses right? they might never want to take u shopping!

anyways hope this helps!

Answer 23

I would never do that to my bridesmaids.  Actually I'm letting them choose the style they want.  They just have to pick it in the color I chose.  I thought that was fair.

Answer 24

My bridesmaids had gorgeous dresses--I wanted them to feel and look great, and they did!  I think they got as many compliments on their dresses as I did on mine!

Answer 25

I chose pretty dresses that my bridesmaids liked.  I don't understand why a bride would purposely choose ugly dresses...I mean the pictures won't come out as well and that's what you have to remember your wedding by.

Answer 26

aawww! poor bridesmadids! its probably one of the most happiest days they would had in ages and then then the bride makes em wear ugly dresses! personly i think thats pretty mean!!  

Answer 27

They will be in pretty dresses that they can wear again.  You want your friends/family to enjoy your wedding.  Also, in years to come you don't want others looking at your picture and wonder what the heck you were thinking in choosing those dresses. ;)

Answer 28

I would never ever purposely dress my bridesmaids in ugly dress. If I'm walking down the isle and they bridesmaids look really bad, then thatll make my whole wedding look tacky. My dress will be a white, s**y/sophisticated dress, of course. My b.m.'s will be wearing sleak and s**y black satin dress with black pumps. Thats how I want it.  

Answer 29

I want my bridesmaids to look and feel hot, so I'll dress them in something (at least that I find) pretty. I'm confident enough that I'll be a beautiful bride I don't need to make my closest friends look ugly just so I feel better about myself. I would hate to look at wedding pictures years down the road and regret letting my own self-esteem get in the way of some beautiful memories.  

Answer 30

I tried to dress my bridesmaids in very tasteful dresses appropriate for my garden wedding -- sage green a-line dresses that would accommodate my rounder MOH. They mutinied at the seamstress and chose shiny teal sheaths which they wore with black hosiery and shoes to my sunny, daytime wedding. I thought it was totally inappropriate and the sheath did not accommodate my MOH's big buttinsky well at all.

So I tried to make them look pretty but unfortunately...they looked gaudy and sweated in the August sun when in the light-colored duponi silk they would have been cool and comfy.

Answer 31

I think a lot of people don't like to admit it but most will do ugly just so they look better.

I'm only having my MOH so she gets to pick her own dress in the color I choose (a dark red).  I have told her that I would prefer if she didn't go strapless as my dress is strapless and I prefer if she didn't show too much cleavage...just because I don't want to see all of that in my pictures LOL.  She has incredible taste so I know she'll look amazing.